Jack told him how much he liked Pantera, but he liked Metallica more.. "Dad, can you play Metallica on your guitar?"

Jack told him that he missed him, and wanted to know when Jeremy was coming to visit.

I talked to him for a couple minutes, offered anything if he'd come see Jack. He said, "Forgive the arrears."

Buttnugget.

This is the first time either of us has talked to him in almost 2 years.

(**end of rant**)

Is he serious? Are you going to be "forgiving?" Thats a tough situation.

Doubtful that "forgiving the arrears" would make a difference in how much time Jeremy spends with Jack. I'm assuming that his comment was a sad attempt at sarcasm. I'm sorry.

By the way, Buttnugget is my new favorite word. That's about as good as Freaky Freakerson.

I am sorry.

I know Jeremy has problems, but that was really crummy.

I am sorry Commander.

I want to offer some comfort because I know how much you want to give Jack the father he deserves. Take comfort in the blessing he has in you as a mom.

Gee, what are you going to do,L? I wonder if a visit will be enough to spark Jeremy. Once we see our children and then ourselves within them, it's hard not to wonder after. I sure hope so. You know where I stand on things and this would be so fantastic for Jack if things panned out. Fingers crossed.

Are the arrears forgivable? Will the state still follow through even if you beg off? Can you even beg off or is there some agency that won't allow you to?

Some of the arrears are forgivable, some aren't. He owes money to the state for public assistance arrears from when Jack was on daycare assistance.

Forgiving arrears wouldn't make a darned bit of difference, since he can't make his monthly payments anyways.

On a happy note, tomorrow Jack's half brother is coming over. Jeremy's ex-gf is coming over too. We talked last week and have decided that we are going to be friends, supportive of each other, and help each other out for the sake of our boys.

I think our 2 families need each other right now.

Yes that is a happy note.

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Originally posted by commander leftover:
[qb] On a happy note, tomorrow Jack's half brother is coming over. Jeremy's ex-gf is coming over too. We talked last week and have decided that we are going to be friends, supportive of each other, and help each other out for the sake of our boys.

I think our 2 families need each other right now. [/qb]

That is wonderful. Everyone involved could really benifit from that.

Aww. It's horrible to lift such hope in Jack and not plan to follow through with it. I wish I could sign up each of these lousy buttheads for a 9 month tour of picking up rocks in the desert.

Good for you branching out and making connections with the family. I know what bravery it takes to do that and I know how important it is to give you and Jack that support.

Take care of you.
Bec

What a wonderful thing for you two Mom's to do for your boys! That is a happy note for sure!

I have words that aren't as cute and fun as butnugget...... I only think them in my head though

Well what do you know, it looks as if Jeremy may have a long lost twin.....

My email from weeks ago: I can't get a mortgage, then what is the deal? There is no real "consequence" on that agreement.



Ex's Latest response: then there are no sleepovers until i get my money to get either a house or an apartment.

Shall we set them up on a date?

OK, so I try not to post anything too personal on the internet, especially this site.. But here goes..

The Lord has stepped in on this situation regarding Jack's half brother. Jack has been all over my $hit to call his dad.. "I wanna talk to my dad!", "I want to call him!". Whatever. I've been able to brush it off, and change the subject.

Last week he was on my case again. I said, "JAck I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOUR DAD IS!!" He said, "Then call my other grandma." So I did.

I chatted with her for a bit. She said, "Did you hear what happened to Alanis? (names have been changed)"

Appearantly, Alanis, who had been remarried for 4 years, has 4 children, living 1 hour away had left her husband and was staying in a battered woman's home in my town.

Her husband had been molesting her daughter (his SD) since she was 7, now she's 11.

My heart broke hearing the news. I told Jack's Gma, "Well, have Jeremy call his son, I have to go to the shelter." We picked up a card for her.

I know how things work at the shelter, they can't tell you who's there. So they let me in, I had her name on the card, I told them that I was just going to leave it on the counter, and IF they had anyone there by that name, please please give it to her.

We left, and they stopped us in the parking lot. Alanis and I have never been "friends". We've always gotten along, never fought. I crashed her wedding 4 years ago. I was really really happy for her.

So they stopped us, Alanis came outside with the kids. Jack and his brother hugged!! I hugged Alanis.

Perhaps the seasoned older members of SFV know my history regarding $exu@l abuse and my stepfather. That's why I felt so compelled my the Lord to offer a hand of support to her.

We talked for about 2 hours while the kids played. I did my best to witness to her. I told her that the Lord might have felt that she wasn't close enough to her children, maybe she wasn't close enough to Him.

So the Lord has decided this path for her so she may be a better person. She really listened. It was tough as a new christian to undertake this devine responsibility of witnessing. I didn't feel ready, but I guess the Lord felt I was.

I had invited her to service on sunday, she seems to be too scared.. However she wants to come to the ladies' bible study on monday night.. I've called the Deconess in charge of the study, she told me that a few of us can branch off to a personal study with Alanis..

Can you guys say a prayer for them?

Alanis needs to get herself well before she can help her children...

Will do!

I most certainly will.

You did well Commander Leftover
Well done

I'm one of those who've been around here forever with you L. You're an amazing woman. No crap! (SFV safe)

You can be my ex anytime. (around here that's a compliment) :hugme:

John... You are a PITA.. Nothin but love for you, old man.. You really have a special place in my heart..

Things went grea today, and we had a special surprise today too.. Jack's uncle made a 2 hour drive to visit... and he brought his boyfriend..

As a ultra conservative right-winger, it's kinda tough to be accepting of that kind of lifestyle, but I did my best..

We've made plans for this coming weekend. Uncle John and "Auntie" Jack (yes, his name is Jack) want to pick up the two brothers for a weekend.. They're going to take the boys to the zoo, the aquarium..

But it's all cool, because it's not about me and my views.. It's about the boys...

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Originally posted by commander leftover:
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I talked to him for a couple minutes, offered anything if he'd come see Jack. He said, "Forgive the arrears." [/qb]

Maybe he brought up the money factor to see what kind of reaction he'd get from you .. hoping for a negative one so he could storm off (blaming you for the cause) and not have to deal with the responsibility of being the dad for yet another 2 years.

Leftover I think what you are doing for your son, his half brother and his mom are amazing!