well my son is 9 now but his father has never been one to pamper or shower love nd affection on him.on weekends out with him he calls me up asking to return .and that upsets me also .normally I soothe him up diverting his attention.he stays with him for 2-3 days when he is taken to restaurants/malls for shopping.....But I can see whatever he is looking for in his relationship with his father ..he is not getting it..he is dissappointed /jealous of other children/seeks attention of other males in neighbourhood //...nd I just dont know what to do

teach him truth
i had several years the same type of problem with my youngest son and father, soemtimes even worse. At the time i wanted to preserve the relationship with my child and his father even if this meant hiding or ignoring obvious misbehaviors from another adult. I often time got very angry at my son because of the influence his father would have over him and then be gone. Finally it dawned on me i must
respect myself and my son with the rruth not to startle his growth or become malicious but these truths are evident no matter how painful and you just are not going to change them by ignoring them they have to be addressed spiritually and practically.
for example : son it takes all kinds of people to make a world some good some bad and everyone is not the same - sometimes we want people to give us things that they dont have or know how to give like love - its hard to give it if you havent ever experienced it or loved yourself
learn to love yourself , because God loves you and i love you and its important to learn this now son as a child you are not responsible for how a grown up acts. Teach him to pray and teach him truth you never know he may start teaching his father my son did - smile
May the eternal light of God be with you

Have you talked to the father about your son's feelings? Really, the father may not realize the disappointment that his son is feeling. I know that my father was a rather cold man, even when dealing with his children. He thought what he was doing was adequate, however; it was just the way he was. Would your son's father be open to advice?

BTW - Welcome to the site.

Later,
Bobby

Thanks for the excellent advice nd I did talk to him ..my son...let see now nd yes actually I had tried speaking to his fathr earlier