HOw funny that two days ago I wrote about a success in court. Today I write hysterical as my 5 year old son has marks across his face and back from his dad's 19 yr old "Fiance". Apparently Wed morning my son had a tantrum over flowers. My ex left him alone with his grlfd who proceeded to beat him and smack his face several times. The day care didn't call me when he got there apparently my ex gave a good story. I rushed him to the Dr who called CPS. The police are involved but everythings moving too slow! They are supposed to go back tomorrow and I can't let that happen. For the last 8 months I've been trying to protect my children, get them away from the **** my ex has created but can I ever really create that? OMG I am so upset......

If you feel that them going back to your ex's is dangerous for them, you can file an emergency order of protection, in which your ex wouldn't be around them, thus not allowing them to go to his house tomorrow...If you feel it is bad enough, contact a group that assists with domestic abuse and keep your children away....

Don't let your child go.
make him(ex) call the police, then tell the police about what has happen and that they(police) are already looking into it.
you should be coverd by that.(I would think)

remember be cool, talk calmy, but do not give in.

Dawg

Whatever you do, do NOT let them go back. If this little bitch would hurt your child once, she'll do it again. She obviously has no business being around children.

Go to your attorney (assuming you have one) or go to the court and file for an emergency order of protection for your children. If I'm not mistaken, they have to give you an answer quite quickly on those, so it should protect you from having to hand them over to your ex and would definitely not look good on him for allowing your child to be harmed by her. That's child endangerment.

Joey's advice is right on the mark....
It doesn't take much to get an emergency restraining order. They issue those without even seeing the judge and then a hearing is scheduled usually within 10 days.

Once you get that I would push for her to be arrested it's called assault & battery and child abuse.

I hope you photographed the marks....

Further note....daycare centers are required by law to report these things....thats a federal mandate.
I'd be putting the squeeze on them as well myself.

Thanks so much you guys..... my poor son. I will be at court first thing in the morning.

i'll be praying for you pink

Ms Pinkie

DO IT NOW, DON'T WAIT

please

Dawg

Filing for a temporary restraining/protection order is not that difficult and the clerks office is required to help you do that.
When you fill out the form make it short and to the point...state the facts of what happened. Don't get into any long detailed story about it...save that for a hearing. Judges like things straight and to the point.

you can go to the police 24/7 for the order cant you? then they phone a judge. i think.... anyone know for sure? if not, i'd phone the police and ask.

Well I would hope the ex dumps the gf in the trash where she belongs after this incident. If not I guess we'll be forced to release the hounds on him. As for you Pink, GIVE THEM **** TOMORROW! Do whatever you can do to keep those kids away from harm.

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It upsets me so much to hear of anyone hurting an innocent little child! My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

HUGS,
Tracie

You should be alright with a temp restraining order, just don't take your son back there tomorrow and have that filed at the county clerk's office.
Take photos and notes while it's fresh in your head. Don't worry too much about all the details for the first filing, those can come out more at the hearing.....

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The day care didn't call me when he got there apparently my ex gave a good story. I rushed him to the Dr who called CPS.

PF,

Your EX hiding the fact your son got hurt
Have you talked to him since it was reported to CPS? If he isn't addressing the seriousness of it.... don't send your son over there. (as others have suggested)

I'm sorry you have to go through that. Just remind your EX his son needs protection from his parents.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you and your son. I know how it feels to think your son is not safe!!! Do not allow him to go to his Dads--take the kids out for the night and if he is there when you get home call the police. The judge will understand why you did this. I am coming down to my sisters--She lives in Saratoga--so we can go to my aunts in Conn. for the day. I will be spending Sunday in Saratoga--PM me if you need someone to talk to I can meet you!

I don't think my last post posted. I am so sorry for your son and you. I am coming to Saratoga on July 12 and 13 to go to Conn with my sister. I will be in Saratoga most of the day Sunday the 13. PM me if you need someone to talk to maybe we can meet up. I am going through a somewhat similiar circumstance and have some thoughts to share with you. Good luck with court tommorrow.

I can't believe it!! That girl MUST be stupid. There is some good advice here. I hope everything turns out for you and your son. Your ex. basically just ruined it for himself.
My heart feels so bad to think of your son getting abused like that.

thinking of you this morning pink!

Me also. Hope you take Pann up on her offer, it'll help a lot I'll bet.

PINK!@!!!! Holy cats! I just now saw this. I would follow advice already given and do not let your son go back there. That's child abuse and I hope you press criminal charges against that woman. She has no right to hit that child, especially when its not her child!

Your ex is a moron for allowing the cover up to happen and instigating the cover up.

File a motion for restraining order with the court.
File a motion for supervised parenting time for your ex/the dad
Press criminal charges for child abuse against the fiancee that way if the ex decides to stay with her, he will have to go through some heavy hoops just to see the kid.

Good luck hon and I hope everything works out positive for you and your son.

Oh honey I hope this goes well for you. A friend of mine had dated a guy who broke up with her then started calling her again after a couple months. It turns out he was being charged with attempted murder!! of his girlfriend's 5 y/o boy. He'd beat him severely and pushed a pillow over the boy's face to stop him from crying. Then the stupid hag of a mother PUT MAKE-UP ON HER SON TRYING TO HIDE THE BRUISES AND SENT THE POOR LITTLE GUY TO SCHOOL!! Teachers saw the bruises and called CPS and both her children got yanked right then and there. It sounds to me like your ex is trying to cover for the little bitch and he should have his parental right revoked immediately for doing, what boils down to, the exact same thing as that woman hiding the marks under make-up.

Press criminal charges against her and then when she gets out of jail, give one of us a call. I'm sure we can come up with something suitable for her.

Saying a prayer for you! Good luck, and get her a*s thrown in jail!

Hey Pink, I hope it went well today. I was thinking of you and saying a little prayer that the Powers That Be where you are would see reason and protect your child from that ... person. Please let us know, when you can, how it's going.