My lovely family has made it clear that they don't like my boyfriend A and had threatned to disown me if I continued to see A, well last week A came over took me and Ash out to dinner well after he dropped us off my sister came over to show off her new car and throw it in my face that she has a new car and I dont even drive. Well she saw A leaving and didn't say anything to me just went back to Mothers house and told her he was here well come thursday afternoon I take Ash to moms and was asked who came over I said A and Dad mom and sister plus her hubbie went off and told me that if I continue to see A they will not be there for me every again and that I would not be welcomed in there house because they hate A and think he is a SOB and a few other choice things. Well I got mad and said if thats the way you want it then thats the way it will be. They went as far as to say that I am not allowed in there house anymore neither is Ashlee until I agree to their terms and quit seeing A who the **** cares that I am 34 almost 35 they want me to give up my happiness to make them happy and I am not going to do that. I did that long enough stayed in a crappy marriage for 8 years because in our house once you get married it is for life and you dont divorce or separate because it is a sin. I am a giver always have been I am forever giving to others and putting my needs aside well know that I have found someone who loves me for me they want me to give it all up for them I think NOT. Last year I loaned them 1500 to buy a car and have never recieved it back even though I was told they would pay me back. I am so hurt and confused at them why they can be so damn mean. I have always been the black sheep in my family and am always asked if I really am related to them it is so hard for me to understand why they don't give a damn about her, I am a good mother and Daughter I do whatever it takes to provide for my kid even if that means having to go without and I can honestly say I have gone without more times then I care to admit. My Dear Sweet A is a God send and he is always taking care of me and Ash doing what he can to help us even though he has 3 kids of his and his ex is a pain in the rump.


Thanks for reading my long winded post


Kim

Family is supposed to be supportive, not manipulative. How I would handle this is by not dealing with their BS. We all have our own life to live.

Make a life for u dont worry about them.It is time to step out and find happiness.My family is the same they are only happy when it is there way but when I need help they duck and run.Nothing I do will ever be good enough for them unless it is on there terms.Stay strong and live your life let them do what they want to you will be fine and so will Ashlee.You are doing great and keep them at a distance cause love shouldnt come with stipulations Paul is right.Hugs gail

I take it tha tyou live with them and your boyfriend A picks you up? Well, sadly, if you are living there, you do need to respect their wishes since it's their house. However if you are paying rent, then they don't have much option to what you do in and out of the house. Is there a reason why they don't like your bf other than it's because you were divorced? If you know they have always been that way, then it's hard for them tolisten and adjust to it. the only way is to move out and see them once in awhlie in your terms.

My advice is to save up money and move, then you don't have to deal with them much.

I live on my own and they still want to run my life.

They just dont like A because he is really good for me they would prefer I go back to the abusive ex and let him ruin my life.


Kim

Dont do that Kim it is a huge mistake and I tried for the same reason.Now I am homeless thank God for Mark he took me and the kids in when we had no place to go.hugs and stay strong Gail

Kim you sound like we should be related. My family agrees with the fact it doesn't matter if he throws you threw a window you have to shake it off get dinner going and cry about it later in the closet and tell everyone you tripped. Make yourself happy, some people tend to rely on the fact of "If you don't see it or turn a blind eye to it, it never really happened or isn't there". if you are happy then in time they will be happy and if they can not be happy for you then I am sorry to say they are not that healthy for you. From what I have read you seem like a good person who is just trying to move on and they want you to be miserable so they can say well that poor Kim, look at her. They need someone to feel sorry for and with you getting a life they might start to realize that it is them they have to be sorry for. be strong and follow where you life takes you.