This is our perment Introduction board for Single Family Voices.

Instead of always sending email to Newbies and reintroducing ourselves lets Place who we our here and we can always refer to it for new members to get better feel for who we all are.

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Hi I am a single workingX2 mother of two boys ages 10 and soon to be 7. I live in Arizona. I am thankful for this site, it's the only place I can vent and find some stress relief. Thank You!!!

Hi, my name is Robin and I am a single mom to a wonderful (ok, 95% of the time) little girl who's 2.5. Her father has never really been in the picture, except for occasionally asking how she's doing, but now we're in the midst of a CS battle so we hear from him fairly frequently. (It's usually harassing, threatening, and angry, but definitely communication).

I work full-time outside the home, and was lucky enough to find a wonderful day care run by a husband and wife. They and their two kids (8 and 12) adore K, and she's always (well, almost always) happy to be going there to play with her friends. She learns a lot there, too, both of which make it much easier to leave her (although it's never easy).

Hello, I am new and this is my first post. I'm just looking for some others who are kind of in my same situation so that I don't feel so alone. I am 26 and I live in South Alabama. I have two beautiful girls ages 3 and 4. I have been divorced since March 2003 and I work full time and go to college part time.

I just can't seem to get my ex to straighten up. He doesn't work or pay CS and he constantly harasses me via phone or at my job to loan him money that he never/can't pay back. I have no peace. I have started keeping a journal and I think that I am on the road to recovery. Thanks and Hello.

CarrieS.

carrie,

hi, he can be arrested for 2 of the things that he is doing. if he calls you more than once harassing you, that is called harassment by phone and is against the law. if he isn't paying c.s. he can go to jail for that...the courts are really strict about that...just call domestic relations about c.s. and the police about the harassment. take care darla

Hello My name is Sarah and I'm a single mom of a 2 year old boy. He's my world. Though some days lately I've been tempted to sell him for real cheap! Kidding of course. It's the whole terrible twos thing. It's wearing! Heh His father has never really been in the picture, and even when he does act like he cares - it's not very convincing and spends most of his time talking about himself to me - like I care? Loser. Anyways - I've found this board to be a great source of support. It's nice to know that you're not the only one going through tough times. I'm lucky enough to be able to live with my parents - they're awesome - and it works out that my mom doesn't work so she watches my son while I work. Soon we'll be moving out - which will be nice also. My parents don't want us to - but understand. I just hope I can make out there on my own. Anyone who needs to chat - I'm here!

Hi! My name is Melissa and I have a wonderful, handful of a 21 month old boy. I love him to death! My ex is a wonderful guy, when he's not being a jerk...=) I've got so many stories and new ones constantly to tell my life could be a soap opera! I'm sure I'm not the only one! Lets just say I live in cali, he lives in Oklahoma, taking advantage of "getting" to be the irresponsible college idiot that he "should be allowed to be." Uhhh hello you have a child! Child=Responsibility. Oh wait that don't teach that in school so he must have never learned it! lol This guys is smart! Incrediably smart. Book smart that is, when it comes to life....forget it! Oh and did I mention his insane mother? And I"m not just saying that. Literally, clinically proven, I'm not just saying it! Anyway, I love this board and the people I've met on here. So thanks to everyone for being there when we need it! I go to school full time and I am fortunate to live with my mom. She's the best! Some day we'll be able to make it on our own, but that some day is a ways away. College is definately a trial in itself with a rascal child like mine. I pull a lot of late nights and all nighters just to get the work done because it is IMPOSSIBLE to do any kind of homework when my son is awake. Oh well, it all works in the end. Starbucks, another wonderful place that I've found for support! lol Well I could write all night so I'll stop here! I've loved meeting all that I have so far and I can't wait to meet more people!

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Originally posted by darla:
[qb]carrie,

hi, he can be arrested for 2 of the things that he is doing. if he calls you more than once harassing you, that is called harassment by phone and is against the law. if he isn't paying c.s. he can go to jail for that...the courts are really strict about that...just call domestic relations about c.s. and the police about the harassment. take care darla[/qb]

Sweetie: For God's Sake I do not want to scare you. But your ex sounds just like mine in the beginning. PLEASE keep that Journal. The journal will be a GOD SEND IF he meets a new woman; straightens up his life and then DOES NOT WANT TO pay child support. My ex and his new wife spent along time building a fradulent case and ENDED up getting custody. I had spend $ 16,000.00 attempting to ENFORCE COURT ORDERS after they succeeded in getting custody. My ex (other ladies referred to them as exhole--I thought that was cute)denied me eleven days visitation and the new order was drafted in such a fashion that I was required to PURCHASE court ordered visitation from the Court Appointed GateKeeper. Even the School Board HONORED my ex husband INSTEAD of the JUDGE.
IN the beginning (early 1990s) I did anything to keep the peace. I went along to get along and looked what happend to me.
I know what this sounds like: the unreasonable and unbelieveable things that have happened in this case, what the Court has permitted my ex to do since 1990 is the very "documentation" that will demonstrate that the Baby Bear Legislation is necessary.
These abusive types will use your children as a weapon in a nasty legal war as a way to punish you for leaving them in the first place.
YOUR JOURNAL will not only be healing, but will be a LEGAL SAVING grace IF you end up there. FORWARNED is FORARMED.

The Courts NOW are strict about child support IF he has a job above board. KEEP the journal and Document the harassment. The Court's tend to not pay attention when the pattern has not been long enough (from their point of view)because you have his Kids. Hang tough. I am so very proud of you--working full time, going to school and raising kids. GOD BLESS you BIG TIME!

My name is Rachel and I have to kids Christopher will be 2 years old in August and Deanna is 11 weeks. Im 21 years old and the father(ha if thats what you can call him) isnt around

I've being reading and responding to messages for about a month now. I'm really enjoying having others to talk to and listen to, it makes me feel not so alone. A little about me I am 23 with a soon to be 5 y/o boy. This past May I graduated from College!! I have a good job and am even looking to buy a house to call my own finally (I've been living with my parents while I went to school and worked part time). My son sees his dad everyother weekend, now that hes married and she has her kid that weekend. He doesn't work or pay, typical 20 something male. I've been so bussy with my son, work and school that I have not had a chance to make many friends or date. Good luck to everyone whos going to school and raising kids, I know it is not easy!

I'm Dusti and I have 16 mos old son. I go to school fulltime right now. I plan on becoming a high school literature teacher. Dad comes when he feels like it. Doesn't pay child support, oh yah, and he's a pathological liar.

Hi!!! I am new to SPN. I have an amazing 4 year old daughter. Her father is in the picture, but I have concerns about him. ^ months out of the year he is an amazing father. The other 6 months he is flighty and unpredictable. I know hedrinks heavy on the weekends, so I try to avoid having her visit him then. I also am worried about his mental health status. But I can't bring it up to him (I've tried) as I am mentally impaired as well, I have Major depressive disorder and Post-traumatic Stress Syndrome. I am afraid he is either Schizophrenic or Bipolar. I don't want to deny my daughter her father because they are amazing together, but I am way too controlling on when and where the get together. Looking for other single parents that have dealt with this.

Hi, I'm Jackie. I'm a 21 yr. old mom to be located in Florida. This will be my first child, and the father wants absolutely nothing to do with it. I figure that's a fair trade... he gets to pretend nothing happened, and I don't get hasseled for making the decision I made to keep this baby. I'm usually very excited about the whole thing, despite having just been fired (Oh, coincidence? ) and just moved back in with my parents, but occasionally I get a little down. Confused and scared are pretty prevailant when it happens. I really enjoy this board, and despite not posting much, have gained a lot of insight from the replies to other people's questions and concerns.

Hello,, I have been a single mom all my kids life,, he only came home a few weeks at a time. I have 3 teen age daughters. I am extremely overwhelmed. I thought the older they got the easier it got,not!

Hi, OneStrugglingMom.
I am a single mom of twin 10 year old boys and a 7 year old girl. I'm new to this web/chat whatever, and want to find people who know what it's like. I'm not looking for a date. It's hard to find single parent groups who aren't trying to date eachother! I've been divorced for 3 years, but my friends are all married and less stressed. I'm going to school, and boy, all the students are much younger than me. Well, you're the first person I wrote to. I hope I can find you again. I wanted to write to you because of the similarity of our kids' ages. Thanks. Bye.

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Originally posted by OneStrugglingMom:
[qb]Hi I am a single workingX2 mother of two boys ages 10 and soon to be 7. I live in Arizona. I am thankful for this site, it's the only place I can vent and find some stress relief. Thank You!!![/qb]

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Hi everyone! I have the most amazing children, I'm not biased !!!! I have 9 year old daughter and an almost 6 year old son! I have lived in Arizona for the past 4 years and love it! I came out here about 9 months after my divorce to start a new life. I finished my bachelors degree at ASU and started a masters this summer! I am going to school to be a counselor! I also just got a new job yesterday (which is awesome)and feel like I am walking on cloud nine!!!
I want everyone to know that there is hope and if you believe in yourself you can make anything happen!!! It has been a long hard road, but I have learned sooo much about myself and how stong I am and I wouldn't change a single second! Good luck everyone have faith in yourself and you can make it through even the worst of times!!!!

Hey there, I'm a 24 year old mother of 2 beautiful children. My daughter is 5 and just started KG and my son is almost 18 months old and is definetely all boy and a handful. I haven't been out a lot since my son was born, because his Dad isn't involved and I have him full time when I'm not working. I work a full time job, have my two kids, and that's about all there's been time for. Anyhow, I'm new here and thought I'd say hello.

my name is dale ellen- i thought things were going good.i recieved a overdraft statement from my main checking account.i have bills,you would not believe.i have this feeling,we are going to miss christmas,this year.all for now.i need to pick my daughter from school.thanks for listenings.dale ellem.

Don't feel bad. I think we all seem to have Ex's that are "dead beat" moms/dads. For example, my X husband abandoned my son and I after recieveing orders to Florida (I'm in the USAF/active duty) when he was a year and a half. He lives in South Dakota and only comes into the picture either out of guilt or convienence. He commited adultry, pudgery (on the stand) and was found in contempt of court. He hasn't paid child support until I took him to court. Which of course costed me a ton of cash! I am in so much debt now.

Don't feel bad. I think we all seem to have Ex's that are "dead beat" moms/dads. For example, my X husband abandoned my son and I after recieveing orders to Florida (I'm in the USAF/active duty) when he was a year and a half. He lives in South Dakota and only comes into the picture either out of guilt or convienence. He commited adultry, pudgery (on the stand) and was found in contempt of court, plus he got his girlfriend pregnant when we were still married. He hasn't paid child support until I took him to court. Which of course costed me a ton of cash! I am in so much debt now.
I guess all I am trying to say is hang in there. There are still really good people out there; don't become bitter and certainly don't give up! I find peace in my son. Just try focusing on your children and do what is best for them. Good Luck! I am harrassed almost daily and it is getting easier everyday!