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Some of us men, like...ahem... Women...not "girls".

See that's my problem! Guys my age (24) don't want to settle down, especially with three kids! And older guys think since I am 24 I must be immature and just looking for someone to take care of us! Throw in the fact that I don't have a job, (between child support and Jeramiah's SSI I live comfortably) and They don't want a whole lot to do with me! This is the only place I have found that I actually have something in common with people my own age. Out in the real world I don't fit in!

Don't mind me, I'm just having a pity party!

4strong,

I understand how you feel.....sometimes it's so lonely being a young single mom. I am the only one of my friends who's divorce, I sometimes feel like I have a big mark on my forehead. I don't claim to know a lot about guys but I bet you are a wonderful woman, a great mommy and a value to everyone you meet. Give yourself sometime and the right person will come to you. It's easy to say, I know, but I really believe things happen for a reason!

As hard as life is I believe that things happen for a reason and in life we have choices it is up to us to pick the right choice. I know that is easier to say. I am a single mother and I am lonely at times too and I wonder will I ever find love again. Especially at night when the kids are in bed and I just would like to watch a movie or just talk to someone. I am so glad that I found this website. Cuz now when I get lonely or want to have a pity party and think that I am the only one going through something I can talk to all of you lovely people and find some comfort.

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Originally posted by pinkflwr:
4strong,

I understand how you feel.....sometimes it's so lonely being a young single mom. I am the only one of my friends who's divorce, I sometimes feel like I have a big mark on my forehead. I don't claim to know a lot about guys but I bet you are a wonderful woman, a great mommy and a value to everyone you meet. Give yourself sometime and the right person will come to you. It's easy to say, I know, but I really believe things happen for a reason!

I am in a similar position. At first, I was the only married one for the longest. And now I am the lone woman out. And of course having been in that set, I am surrounded by people who have a strong marriage/antidivorce ethic. That's how I was too. It is very isolating, even though they have been very supportive of me.

I think you have gotten a lot of good advice. Take care of yourself and stay open to the possibilities. That's what I am trying to do.

Its true. Somehow you feel like the new car that is driven off the lot and your net worth is not the same as it was before you left! I'm there with you. Someone I was talking to (baby's dad) said I'm just gonna be another statistic if I have this baby (another single mom) and why do I want that he said. I have success ahead of me and a great future. Why should I ruin it with a baby. That makes you feel like you know what. But what everyone said is true. I guess you have to just pick yourself up and wait for your destiny to arrive---whatever it may be.

It is not too late for you. I am 42 & considered having another baby with my present boyfriend. But after helping him gain visitation of his daughter, he was no longer interested in having a baby with me. At first, that was what I figured would happen. I felt like hey this guy just needs to see his own daughter & that need for a baby would go away. It is now 2 yrs later & he no longer wants a baby. I feel I am now to old to consider. But you are young....Hope it happens for you soon. Good luck

the greatest realization in a single woman with kids' life is that she and her children are a wonderful packaged gift to anyone they choose to give themselves to! My mom(ugh) keeps telling me you have baggage now!!! about my 2 daughters, but then reminds me that anyone would love to have us! All things considered, I am quite happy just being us! I love my daughters and since they are only 2 and 1 and I am about to start nursing school and leave them for the first time I don't have time to date or I would be cheating them!!! Tammy girl,

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I feel I am now to old to consider.

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Have you considered being foster mom or adopting? I don't think you're too old to hit up a sperm bank, but the risks are higher!!!

I heard that story many times, if you commit mistake for the first time, you can also do it in the second time. But we need to know and learned the circumstances if we do it again.