well guys sorry for not being here recently ,i was in my job .i work on shift basis ,in fact i am in love with a lovely lady real class .she used to be a friend of mine some years ago.i am now considering remarrying .we discussed all issues ,she is divorced she has two adorable angels 12,8 yrs old .i am loving them and they are the same.i am now considering the marriage .do you think i am making a problem to my daughter ,as she is not coming to me ,legally she will remain with her granma till she will be 15 yrs old .well i love both kids and forgive me for saying i am ready to do any thing in the world to please both of them .they are great.so cute .is it parental temporarily love because of not seeing my daughter much.i am lost ,i wait for your answers.bye

I think you really care about this woman and her kids. You would do anything for them and would feel this way whether your daughter was living w/you or not. In some ways maybe you are doing for this kids what you can't do for your daughter right now but does not mean that you love your child any less.

Go w/your heart and if its' telling you that you need to do this and its a good thing go w/it.

Good luck to you and I hope things work out for the best.

SPIRIT

i thank you alot for your warm words.i forgot to tell you i adore the older kid coz he has a good senses of humour .i see in him what i wanted to be when i was his age.that is why i adore him and i am really ready to die for them .of course i love my girlfriend and i am ready for anything for her.now our problem is a bit financial coz her ex is not willing to continue supporting the kids in school and their french school is really expensive ,i am ready to support the kids and of course my own daughter which will make me bankrupt for a little while but i guess it is worth it.when i talked to my woman about living together i mean marrying as living to gether does not exist in my country .she accepted and she will leave the appart to her ex of course i am going to sell my appart and buy two apparts in front of each otheres so that legaly we can live as a family and the kids will be with her mom.the real thing is that the kids will live with me and if any conflicts they will go to the other appart in front of us to be legally with the guardian .her mom and my mom are not accepting the idea at all as it is normal in our society but i dreamed of marrying her since we were 12 yrs old.can you believe this .i felt relaxed when she broke up with her ex ,i am really sorry for theses words but it is the truth.she is really pretty in my eyes.i see her as aphrodite .in my country we have a common saying ,we say hee loves the land that she steps on.i beliv i feel the same.untill now we are seeing each other in holidays ,in clubs but every body knows the truth and we are ready to face the world to marry each other.i am sorry to amke you a headache but really i love her and i am happy to be in love from a long time .i buy her cakes and give them as presents to my friends to help her support the kids as she is in shortage now in money and she is a proud lady she would not accept money form me although i am theoretically her fiance.i buy them with pleasure ,i make my friends buy from her and pay them so that she does not get angry and feel ashamed .i love her i love her i love her.she is hot in my eyes.everything she wears is a real a la mode .i even ,believ it or not make my self make earings around their home to have alook at her house at her car ,at eh kids at school.the school teachers are my friends and i get to visit them always to have a look at the kids ,see their work at school be around them.their father is not caring even about them ,when they go to see him the older one makes himself sick to be able to escape.i know him and he knows me a lot as we were in the same school .but i am a bit sad ,some friends said the kids will not continue that way after some years and they will hate me as i took their mom.i spoke to them frankly and told them we were going to be engaged fro a while ,and see but i felt and saw the light in the older kids eyes.his mom told me he is so glad ,his youngest brother is not the same because he is younger.i am so happy.can you believ that i get to make them sleep when i read the the conte de gasgocogne tales and buy them the cds of french singers i get to buy from france .the same is done for my daughter but she is in english school.my mom says i am loving the bys because i wanted a boy so much but i am not racist against women on the contrary i respect them very much.well i guess i am stopping now before you get bored .bye

aha hi ,
forgot to tell you that here the laws are stating that at the age of 13 for boys ,the juge asks him whether he likes to stay with his mom or not ,if he says yes his dad can stop paying the child support fees.well as an organised person i called the guy who was marrying my ex ,and i told him frankly that we shall not keep the kids from him if he wants to see them anytime and for any period .but we shall keep the kids and i shall support the family anyway.well i hope he can understand the necessity of keeping the older kid to his mom and in the same time i shall never forgive myself for destroying a kid's feelings .i shall be honest.i know all conflicts are money wise and i am willing to sacrifice to be with my life love .i am sorry i write a lot today but cannot help it.i am frank and was raised to hear other opinions before making my own ,democratic man .well i hope to hear from him soon ,as he promised to reconsider the matter for the sake of his son.i guess he is affraid i steal his son from him although he does not care about as i said before.forgot to tell you i wear glasses and the kid also and that why i pitty for him to be miop like me while i was so young.well i wanted to ask do you think i am loving my friend or her kids .i saw a film where the man married a lady coz he loved her son but i think i love both of them .she is not using me as my ex did ,fears on my health ,and my appearance .i feel i am going to be better in all points with this marriage can any body advise me .please ,hugs