I think its great that you have remarried!

You have given me and, I am sure, other single parents hope.

I would love to one day meet my soulmate.
I am sure he is our there, somewhere, but just doesn't have my number yet.

So What did you look for?
I don't want to end up with Squirrel food again.

When is it safe to meet?
If you met online...

Oh he** when do you know when its right?
:P
I have heard that 85% of couple that live together before marrage end in divorce.

I have no desires at this time to even consider that situation.

To live with someone would mean marriage and I don't want to consider that situation either, at least not at this time.
I wonder what the 21-century percentile status will turn up with?

Maybe the new stats will show that couples that last a life time are those that had written before marriage.
and
Maybe met RIGHT HERE @ SPN!


Any ideas about this out there????

Peace
Robin

I was divorced at aged 36 with a 3 yr old son in my custody. That was 13 yrs ago. In the initial yrs, I badly wanted to find a replacement wife and mother to my son. I thought this special someone would bring us happiness and normality to our lives. I was dead wrong!!! I went into a series of relationships hoping for this to happen. All ended in failures, bewilderment and hurt.
Later, I joined a single parent support group. I attended programs and workshops that helped in grief work, divorce recovery and healing. I have learnt that unless I have worked thr my grief, experienced sufficient healing and become a more wholesome person, I cannot get into any serious relationship. Jumping too fast into relationship is mainly to fulfil my own selfish needs. I don't intend to make the same mistakes again. I needed to learn from my past and to grow from there.It is especially sticky n complex where children are involved.
Right now, I'm still single. I have discovered I could also be happy being alone.
Depending solely on another person to bring me happiness can be disastrous.
I have learned much thr those painful yrs of struggles n adjustment. I believe that if I meet this someone now, I'm better to make this relationship a meaningful and rewarding one.

HEAR HERE!!!

Well said

Help me! I need advice. I am dating a single father of two boys 13, 11. Both of his children are very sweet and I think I get along with them just fine. I don't want to be their Mom they have one already. He has joint custody of his two kids and gets them every other week. What I'm struggling with is that I am not sure where my boundaries are and also, where do I fit into his life? I am in love with him. I am sure about that, but I am not sure I want to endure child raising and his ex-wife for the rest of my life. I know he wants to get married. He's only been divorced two years. He asked me to move in with him and I did. I know this may have been a bad choice going on the statistics posted here. I want to know where I fit into his life. His kids are first, his family, their grandparents. What number am I? 2? 3? I knwo they come first and that is okay, but then I want my time. Like when he has time with the kids, I should be able to go off and do my thing? I feel like I am not a part of his "family" I am just there for him at his convience. I have looked all over the web and I CANNOT find any sites that are for singles who are dating parents. AHHH! I try to talk to him about this a little, but to him everything is peachy. I am also scared, he just wants a wife. Help. What do u think of all this. -Stacey in Dallas

Stacy: and to all that have this same question. It is not time for the two of you. You are already feeling overwelmded and once you are in the middle , not just on the side line, it could over power you.

There are tons of fish in the sea, start fresh. You are right you do deserve your time.

I had my time, now my time is grown to our time (my children and mine) and they are not small forever.

Find someone on the same page as yourself.

Please give an update on how things turn out.

Peace Robin