Hi. I am living with my boyfriend and my son whom I have full custody. My boyfriend, Jason, and my son, Michael, get along very well and we are all happy. however...Jason's role as a father figure has yet to be established by me. I am continuing to take full role in disipline and care for Michael. Jason does want to move to be more involved in all aspects of Michaels life and care. I do not know how to make this move in the smoothest way. Any advice on my situation is welcomed!!! And appreciated!!!!!

I've never had a boyfriend living with us, so I have ne first hand experience in that .

How old is your son?
How long has your boyfriend been living with you?

I thinks those things would really be critical in this.

My son and I have lived alone his whole life (all of 4 years). We all moved into a new house (due to relocation) 1 month ago.

Purple Butter,
I would think so early into this that baby stepping into the new 'family' dynamics is the best route.
It is a huge adjustment for everyone.
Your little guy is used to having mommy to him self and mommy was ruler of the kingdom.

In my view you should try to maintain that for sometime. Let everyone continue getting used to the new lives. Of course, you can accept help from your new partner, in the everyday stuff.
I bet there are books that deal with step parenting and the roles. I hope other members who have first hand experience in this respond.

I really don't kow what is best, except that you don't want to cause conflict with the little guy and the boyfriend so early on, afterall the little one is just getting used to sharing mommy with this new person, that is a major adjustment for anyone to accept, I can only imagine how tough it might be for a 4 year old.
i think I would have difficulty releasing responibility to the new partner too. After all you have always been the one to decide and do it all.

It will come together.

How long have you been in the relationship? You said you have been living together for just a month now.
That's a good sign that he wants to assume that role. He must really love you guys.

For me it would depend completely on how well I knew the inner person. It would take a lot to actually trust someone in that role, since it is a rather long term commitment, and involves the most important thing in the whole universe...

Do you feel pretty confident that you both have the same parenting values?

As a man, if in his position, I would want to be involved in your son's life as more than a roommate. If I wasn't allowed to, that would really bother and concern me.

Have you told him that your son is going to be a teenager???