SM.... quick question... is this the same girl you talked about in your other post? Have those issues been resolved? What has happened with everything? This seems pretty sudden after all that happened in Dec. What has changed your mind?

Now I remember, you had posted about the chick with the drug issue and ex issue right? Red light.

Hi,

Yes, it is the same girl� thanks for your concern.
The issue of the ex has been resolved, we needed to spend some time apart so that she could get to a place where the two of them had an understanding� that being that she is going to get on with her life, without him and that she would be in a relationship with another man at some point, he IS the father of their child � no one can replace him BUT he IS NOT going to be in a relationship with her outside of their shared role as parents etc.

She rightly felt that it would be impossible to do that whilst in a relationship with me given the justified hatred that the ex has for yours truly�

She says that she has done what she felt was necessary to facilitate his (and her) feelings and that she is now ready and wanting to get on with her life (without guilt) which she has implicitly stated includes me.

I have also had red lights and warning bells going off in my head but I have also been with this woman for the last 2 years, through what will probably be the most difficult time of her life.
I have accepted the part that I played in what transpired and my responsibility to her and her daughter for it. I know many guys who would�ve jumped ship by now!

I know what its like when things are good and I have (a little too much) experience of what its like when things are bad.
What I mean is that we know each other, better than most people do after spending the same amount of time together, its not always been easy, in fact its been soul destroying at times but we still keep coming back to each other, we still have this powerful love and we still share this dream of being together until we die.

I know its risky, all my friends think I need my head read for taking her back after everything but sometimes you gotta stop questioning and just believe�
Its like that song by U2 where bono sings about: ��a place that has to be believed to be seen.�

Maybe we will live in bliss for the rest of our lives, maybe this will be the biggest mistake of my life, who knows but none of that matters �cos u got to follow your heart� right?

"If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't
lead anywhere."
--Unknown

Hi All,

As promised: an update on how it all went.

Well, in a word� PERFECTLY!
All of your sentiments were echoed about the ring � and even about past problems. We are very, very happy� and secure in our love and the decision we have made.

It was a perfect evening, I made lobster tails and we sat by the lake, I popped the question, popped the cork and off we go!

It feels really good to be doing this for all the right reasons too � there is no bun in the oven, no passports or permanent residence required� just love, lovely love.

Have a great week everyone and thanks again!

M

Sounds like your walking on air, Congratulations.

:lovehearts:

Congratulations! Glad to hear that it all went well! Good luck on your future!

Congratulations! I'm glad it went as you wanted. Best of luck to the two of you!

YAY!! Congrats!!

Congradulations. Nice to hear it. I am sure we all are very happy for you.
Can I make a suggestion? Go to pre-marital counseling. I know it sounds strange when you are so happy, but it will help in the future.
Talk about money, any more kids, how to raise kids, expectations of each other. Call it insurance for the future.
Lots of prayers for you. I am glad it worked out in your favor. :sweetheart:

Congradulations! Glad it went well, and the premarital counseling is good advice.
Good Luck!

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Congratulations! This idea doesn't sound so bad.

Oh, this almost made me cry. Sounds like a movie. I am so happy for the both of you. I have a wonderful relationship again and hope it will always be that way. Best wishes..... Schicksal