Maybe I dont get it. That is what the school near my parents is called. I really didnt know too much about it, besides it has a really good reputation. Here is the link if you want to check it out. www.mawcschool.org
Thanks for the info. about noachides. I learn something new everyday.

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Originally posted by the sane one:
[qb] www.mawcschool.org [/qb]

Thanks "sane one." I checked out the website, and it looks like a private religious school for Jewish children. It would be nice if they had a curriculum geared toward the non-Jewish child in Jewish day schools, but that isn't the case. I once asked my rabbi if my kids should attend the local Jewish day school, but he said he wouldn't suggest it since it's geared toward only Jews and would be a bit confusing to my children. Although the belief system is the same, Judaism isn't only about beliefs -- it's about religious obligation, ritual, etc. These are different between Jews and Noachides.

Noachides must teach their children about their role in Judaism themselves, under the direction and supervision of a rabbi. At this point in time, we have no other option.

I always thought it was for anyone who wanted to go there too, until I looked it up. I mean I thought it was geared towards jewish and non-jewish children. Oh well. I have to admit I never heard of Noachides until now.
I'm going to send you a PM.

Hi Julie,
I'm a new member, so I'm sorry of this comes a little late. I have the same "communication" issues with my ex husband too. And boy did you hit the nail on the head.... "he didn't listen while we were married..." I've tried teaching myself that we are divorced for a reason. We have different beliefs on how our child should be raised, loved, cared for and WE ARE NEVER GOING TO AGREE! I had to have my lawyer include in one of the custody amendments "Father will provide child with her own bed" and further ridiculous requirements that any sane person would ordinarily do for their child. But, I had to... he wouldn't hear a word I said otherwise. I would love,love,love to go to parents couseling with him so someone could mediate and keep him calm for 5 minutes so we could discuss things about our daughter. He has no interest, though. But, maybe your ex could be persuaded....?

Hi Sane one,
Just wanted to say hi, and tell you I love your quote! It really hit home for me today, so thanks!

:welcome: Hi AnnieBlue. My daughters father and I have been going to "counseling". I have nothing but sarcastic things to say about that. I've already learned that he is never going to change, and that he is always right, and I am always wrong. The counselor is finally seeing it for what it is, even though I told her from the beginning. It might work for some, but not for me.
Anyway, welcome to the site.

Thanks, AnnieBlue!

I do appreciate your reply, no matter when it comes. Thank you very much.

No, my ex will not be interested in parenting counseling. We tried counseling while we were married, and he just refused to even acknowledge the issues. Besides, we live three states away now, I doubt we could do counseling.

Our custody/visitation order DOES include a notation that he must provide adequate sleeping arrangements for the children while they are visiting. He was asked by the judge in court if he had any, and he said, under oath, that he had two trundle beds, so each child would have his/her own bed while there.

I think what I'm going to have to do is email him, reminding him that he agreed to have adequate sleeping arrangements in court and it is on the court order, and then drop the subject after that. I'll continue to listen to what the kids tell me, and if I ever hear of anything concerning them sleeping with him and his wife that doesn't sound healthy, I'll speak with a lawyer then.

Julie

how often does he see them if he lives 3 states away? I would say to ask your kids a few times where they sleep and if they say in their dad's bed with his wife, then I would call social service and let them know that you have a court order that he needs to follow. I don't know but in most states, isn't there a rule that a child must have a certain amount of space and have room to sleep in? It's not appropriate if they sleep when he's with his wife.

As for the name calling, that's tough I had to go thru that as a teenager, my mom remarried fast, and then after 2 weeks of knowing him, my mom wanted me to call him "dad" I didn't want to argue or confront anything so I did. It turns out he's a good generous dad and he would do anything for me.

I agree with Paul, leave it up to the kids to call her whatever they feel is comfortable. As much as you want the title only to be yours, it's sad that it may be addresssed to teh significant other in your ex's life.

Hi iluvlaura!

Thanks so much for your reply.

He just started visitation in his home. Before we had a temporary order that restricted him to only supervised visits here where I live. This summer he gets them 3 weeks (1 week in June, 2 weeks in Aug), next summer 4 weeks (either 2 weeks at a time or all four weeks consecutively), and the following summer and every summer thereafter 6 weeks (either 3 weeks at a time or all six weeks consecutively). He also alternates Thanksgiving and Winter breaks, and he gets them every Spring break.

I think I've decided to remind him over email of the court order regarding sleeping arrangements and leave it at that. If he continues this practice and the kids say anything that is worrisome, then I'll certainly call someone about it. I just don't want to create waves over visitation and harm the kids happiness.

As far as them calling her "Ima," I've told them what it means and told them it was up to them if they wanted to call her that. But I told them I would not call her that, as she is not my mother or their mother. I will call her by her name. I've come to terms that I'll just have to deal with it if they choose to call her "Ima." I totally disagree with it, and he really should have included me in the conversation about what to call his new wife, but he's a jerk and probably forever will be one. And unfortunately, I had children with him and will have to put up with him and his stupidity, immaturity and selfishness.

My kids know who their mother is, and that's what truly matters. They may like her, they may even grow to love her, but they will never love anyone like they love their mom.

I appreciate your input from the other side of the coin, so to speak. It only strengthens the decisions I've made regarding these issues. Thank you so very much!