Here is the deal he is 43 no kids.. we have been together 2 years very much in love.. he is around the kids all the time loves 'em. Me quite frankly a 35 year old MILF with two boys.. The boyfriend has been mentioning the maybe we should think about moving in together bit and dropping a lot of hints about us together forever ect... He is an honest man ,not a liar.. Well I have a chance to buy a house in June now suddenly he is pretty sure he wants this and I am definalty the one for him but he has to think about buying the house with me ... What do I do give him a little time or assume that not knowing for sure right now is a NO HELP I am flipping out.... Cyndi

Hi cyndit, welcome to the site. Not sure I'll really help, but to buy a house together is a big step. My suggestion is since you have until June not like next week, give it a little while before flipping out Sometimes us guys need to think things out, mull it over, and then consider all angles before we finally get around to making a decision and that might just be which new tires for the car to buy. Purchasing a house together is a big decision, 30 year mortgage, legal contract hmmmm a lot like getting married. I'm assuming this opportunity just recently presented itself. If after a little while he is still being unsure, then pursue it for a more definite answer. Probably the thought/hints at moving in together hadn't yet included the idea of co-purchase of a home?
Best wishes
Don

Thank you for your reply... I spoke to my best Guy freind ( no agenda) and he said the same thing. I am glad a man responded because all of my girlfreinds are as typically female as I am.. Whatever that means.
Thank you again,
Cyndi

Oh,
and one more thing.. the answer to your question of purchasing a home together is yes it is newish ( funny it dosen't look newish). He owns his own home, I used to and am looking to upgrade for both of us. It is a nice home that neither one of us could afford on our own but together it is a real possibility. 2 Big dogs between us and a lot of freinds ect....
Any way I saw him last night and we did not talk about it, yeah for me.. Give a little emotional space but be loving ..ect.. Grateful for this site. I did not know it even exsisted until yesterday. I Love it...

Good for you for handling it that way when you saw him. You don't have to wait forever for an answer, but a little while for him to think it over won't hurt anything in my opinion. Knowing that the purchasing a house together as opposed to probably just moving into his house was a new twist to moving in together is no doubt why he needs to process the thought some more. I hope everything works out great in the end.

I agree, gotta love this site, loads of good people and it's still growing very fast.

Hi, Cyndit! Welcome to the site. It really is a fantastic place to be. I happen to agree w/Don. It isn't easy not to know right now, but you have to give him space. If it is something that is meant to be, it will be. Give him some time, and just be patient w/him. Bring up the subject when the timing is right and don't push for an answer. You don't need an answer today, so you have plenty of time to get the answers you need. Good luck!!!!!!!

I would never do that. Not even if I was madly in love with the guy. It is a lot like marriage and without marriage there are too many factors that can come into play. I am not referring to now when you are happy together...I am speaking of later....There is too much financial obligation there. Think about what if he gets hurt, and can't pay his portion...or sick..What if he dies and it becomes your house....will his family fight that? I wouldn't do it. Not until you are both married. JMO

hiya gang,
little update now he's really talking abou tgetting married YEAH!!!!!!!

cyndit, Congratulations on your patience working out on this. Glad to see that time for his thinking to work out well.
Best wishes

Hi Cyndit,
I was wondering about you and how all that was going. I am also glad to hear that things are going good for you. I hope that you take your time and that it is all that you hope for it to be. Take care Me

Hi Cyndit,
I am a single mother who is in a similar situation. I am pleased to hear that other single parents struggle with similar issues. I wish you luck. I haven't made it that far yet.
casewesternmom

HI CYNDIT,
DONT DO ANYTHING YOU ARE NOT READY TO DO . THEY`LL BE OTHER HOUSES ALONG THE WAY. IF HE LOVES YOU HE`LL UNDERSTAND AND WAIT! X

Hi ya'll,
Well the latest update is that he is going to commmitt to the family thing and is getting actually excited about it, little things like reading parenting magazines ect....
See Ya'll
Cyndi

Quick update gang he proposed Thanksgiving weeking the big ring the whole deal!!!! here we go!!!!!!

Yay! Congrats Cyndit!