Do you want more? What if you were to remarry and your new spouse insisted?

I would be very afraid of winding up in this position again with another child or two.

Well after my older boys were late teens I did remarry, had 3 more kids and doing it solo again.

So dumb me I guess, but I like kids and don't mind it.

I truly want more children. I just want to attempt it in a "forever home". I say that in quotations because situations can always change, but that I really want to be with a partner I plan on spending my forever with before I have another baby.

I just wonder if that'll happen before I grow past the idea of more.

Sometimes I think about it. I always dreamed of having a large family with a partner to cherished raising children.

I wonder if it would be fair to my sons now...

would they be bitter? or would they cherish the opportunity for the blessings a large caring family can provide in their adult life.

I always think about this subject. At times I think I'd love to have one more...but I have the same fear of things going wrong again. I see these women with newborns and a happy marriage (so it seems) and I'm just a tad bit jealous.

If you would have asked me this before I re-married I would have said the 3 I have are enough and the person I marry would have to accept that (I even have my tubes tied). I married someone this year who loves my kids as his own (which is great cause their bio-dad has been no where to be found for 5 years) he accepted that he wouldn't get a bio-kid of his own (even though he would have liked one) and he wanted to marry me & my kids knowing I didn't want another one. But guess what, i want another one ... we have talked about it and met with a dr, maybe sometime next year we will try IVF My kids want a baby brother too so that makes it easier.

Tough call here. In many ways I'm content with the 2 that I have. I do think that does have a lot to do with the fact that I *I* don't feel I could handle anymore as a single mom. I would love to have more someday though, I just don't want to do it alone if I do.

Of course if your new spouse really loves you, he or she must respect your decision.