Kai has been doing so well with potty training. She even got to the point where she was just saying "gotta go potty" would get up and run to the bathroom and go, no problem. But now for the past two weeks she has been having HUGE accidents. Not just going a little and then saying she has to go but full fledged sitting there peeing her pants.

Last night, I asked her if she had to go potty, she said no then went into her bedroom. I went into the kitchen to check on dinner, came back out and she was sitting on her bedroom floor, and I could see the wetness under her butt. I lost it and yelled at her to get up, go the bathroom and that she was not playing anymore last night. After she is done finishing in the potty, she then looks at me, takes my hand in hers and says "mom, i will do better, I promise." And she looked at me with those big blue eyes and looked . . . pathetic! I am not falling for that.

I dont know what to do. I am at my wits end and have had it with the accidents. She went through 25 pairs of underwear and pants last week.

SOMEONE HELP!!!!!

wow that's got to be frustrating. I hated potty training my daughter. Does your duaghter like to wear diapers? I know that If I told my daughter that she was going to have to wear a diaper again she would not like that at all. That's just an idea. Stay strong don't look directly into her eyes!!

Hmmm, I think we had similar issues with Ash.

A little "coaxing" helped. What I mean is this. I want to say Ash was about 3 when we got her potty trained, that about right? Anyway, she had her share of mistakes, still does from time to time, it's going to happen (go into this in a bit). We put her in pull-ups. We didn't just do it though. We talked to her about how the other kids probably don't have to wear them, that bigger kids don't have to wear them. I'm not sure it was the right way to do it, but it worked. Basically she didn't want to be the only kid wearing pull-ups. Even though she liked the patterns on them (Dora ...)

Ok, so here's what happened, just the other night. She goes to the bathroom and does her thing, she comes out, I ask "Did you wash your hands", she goes back in (very cute). Again she comes back out and is sitting next to me on the couch. I felt something wet on her pants, the back of her pants (can't remember how, maybe saw it first don't know). I asked her how her pants got wet. She was so sullen, she waits until the last minute to go, and this time, she didn't get set in time and ended up watering her pants. I just told her it was an accident, to not wait so long next time and to go change. I also talked to her about letting me or mom know when that happens so we can make sure she gets a change of clothes. It was kind of cute how she reacted to it, and I didn't blow up about it. Probably because the couch is the ex's (HAHAHA)!!!

Kai wears pullups at night but rarely pees at night. She just seems to not care, and sometimes she is playing or "busy" and doesn't want to miss out on time doing whatever it is that she's doing. I just need to try something new.

And yes BAmy, I can hear you saying "sucker!" lol

This meeting i'm on is running long ....

I gotta go potty

I keel Kai's pain

If this meeting doens't end soon I gona have an ax-sin-dent

I have a three year old going through the SAME thing! They always revert for awhile but she will get it!!! She won't go to college in diapers. Know it's not you or anything you are doing. She will learn when she's ready!

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Originally posted by Bishop:
This meeting i'm on is running long ....

I gotta go potty

I keel Kai's pain

If this meeting doens't end soon I gona have an ax-sin-dent

That's very encouraging Mark. LOL
Where you been?

Trying my darndest to get a new spot in the company or a job any where with the added work of everything they want finished before I go

maybe i should wet myself be wourth the laugh

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Originally posted by Bishop:
Trying my darndest to get a new spot in the company or a job any where with the added work of everything they want finished before I go

maybe i should wet myself be wourth the laugh

That's so gross Mark. ick!

I had the same problem with Parker. He was literally four before he was potty trained. I was going crazy-and his daycare was getting pissed (pardon the pun) at me. I tried everything reward charts, m&m's in the toilet, making him go every 15 minutes to the bathroom, and nothing worked. It was finally his friends at daycare that did it. One day he peed his pants while in the daycare playroom and his two friends were laughing at him, calling him a baby. My heart sunk when his daycare provider told me, but you know what he has never had an accident since then (about 6 months ago). Good Luck.

I am having a similar problem with my 2 1/2 year old she was doing great for a month before Christmas and getting sick and going on vacation. Well we got back home and she was still doing great at peeing most of the time but she has been doing the other in her pants. Well yesterday was also a rough day for us she did number two in her pants in the morning and then after bath and before we put her diaper on her for the night she peed and left a big puddle on the floor. I made her clean it up. Today she had no accidents at all. I also told her if she did that she would have to clean up any accidents. I also yelled at her yesterday because I was so upset. We have never gone through 25 pairs of underwear in a day. Good luck with the potty training keep up the good work. She will eventually be potty trained.

Hang in there. My daughter did great as far as pee-pee went, once she trained she was trained. However, #2 was another story, that took much more effort and patience!! I tried the all the typical bribes (reward stickers,treats, etc) but to no avail..just did not seem impressed by the whole "rewards" thing. Until I finally gaveup and realized that she had her own agenda and there was nothing I was going to do to change that. When she was ready, she was ready. And sure enough as soon as I took that approach and acted like I didn't care..she did a complete 360 and has been pooing ever since..lol. Ok, I guess what I'm trying to say is, be patient, allow for the setbacks and try not to let her see you get upset (especially when she's trying so hard) as this will only further delay the process. Ugh I remember it well and it wasn't fun..so I definitely feel your frustration.

Smshy dont be discouraged. Almost every child I have trained here in my daycare had a set-back at some point. I am not sure why they seem to regress. I suggest you start making her go to the potty on a schedule every 20 minutes then alittle longer each day untill she doesnt have any more accidents. I'm sure she'll get back on track in no time.

Unless of course there is something stressful going on in her little world. I am sure you probably considered it but just in case..Have you asked her if anythign was bothering her,how her days are going and if her friends in daycare(assuming she in in daycare) and the provider have been nice to her. Something as simple as the kids didn't want her to play with them the other day could make her feel insecure.

Oh boy, I am not looking foward to this!!

NJ, I actually asked her last night if everything was okay. She said she was fine. I even went to the point of asking her if anything hurt and then went down the list until she looked at me and said "mom, I want to go to sleep." lol

The daycare provider told me yesterday that it took three attempts sitting on the potty before Kai went #2 and then she said it hurt and was hard. I've been trying to get her to drink more water but all she wants is juice. I am resorting to putting a little juice in her cup with mostly water. I have to figure something out. I know that if little kids have a blockage or hard time #2 then that causes #1 to be messed up.

A half a teaspoon of mineral oli will prevent her from holding it in for too long. I have seen alot of kids decide to hold in #2 when they are potty training and yes it can lead to more serious problems. The mineral oil shouldn't make her run to the potty every 5 minutes it should just make it harder to hold in for too along. If 1/2 teaspoon doesnt work within 12 hours try either another half 0r go for a whole teaspoon next time.

What is mineral oil? Where do I get it? I'm just concerned because her #2s are hard and she always says that it hurts. I know that she holds them in a lot.

You can get it at any grocery store and most likley pharmacy ..I'd just call the local pharmacy and ask then because I am unsure what section of the store to look for it in. As I havn't bouoght it in a long time usually I recommend it and the parents buy it. I do know it looks just like vegetable oil only it is completly clear and comes in a clear bottle..It doesn't really have a taste to it but feels wierd going down..I'd have some type of motivation ready to get her to take it w/o any problems. It is best if she takes it straight without trying to dilute it.

Also ..so you know this was recommended to one of the kids years ago by a doctor..not something I just made up..but I have used it every since with many of the daycare kids.

NJ, thanks for the reassurance. LOL That thought did cross my mind but I thought that maybe you knew what you were talking about.

Oatmeal pies as in Oatmeal "cream" pies???? I can't buy those cause I love em and I'll eat them and we can't have that. lol

I will keep that in mind though. I used to give her hot cocoa at night but haven't done that in a while, maybe it's time to start up again. lol

She loves Frosted Mini Wheats.

Thanks for all the suggestions folks.