So I have my first holiday party to go to at this new company I started working for and the big question on my mind is: should I go alone or find a date? I'm not currently seeing anyone...but I think I might feel odd around the other couples if I'm flying solo? Any thoughts?

Lovinit, I also have this issue. Our company party is next Friday night and i'm the only single one Its going to feel weird

have you picked out an outfit? that's all i have to look forward to. its a pretty trendy group that i work with so i was thinking of wearing this grey, silk cocktail dress, but i wasn't sure if that would be too racy.

I'm wearing jeans and a sweater. these people dont dress up unless they have to. I have to work all day so they will see me in what i worked in

oh man, i wish i could wear jeans to the office holiday party...so much less pressure. but funny thing happened, my friend just sent me a video about dealing with office holiday parties from www.better.tv --- tooo weird! i guess i am worrying a little too much! now i just need to make sure i don't have too much champagne!

Yeah, my office holiday party is coming up and I am dreading it. All the women that I work with are married or dating and they will bring their huband/dates and then spend the whole night watching them and me and making sure that I am not trying to seduce them. I am not flirtacious but I do tend to have a good rapport with all the men I work with. We laugh and joke around and play jokes on each other. I see them the same way I see any of my male friends---just as friends--- but the girls do not see it that way. I like to drink and dance and have fun--I will challenge them to darts, I have been known to win more than my share of beer drinking contests and I love practical jokes. I see this all as harmless--they don't. I thought about wearing something matronely and not drinking and sitting around talking about cookie recipes. But, that is so not me---so I will be myself--I may get too drunk--I might dance too much I may have some tequila, but as long as it does not make my clothes fall off I am ok!!

This year the company decided a NO PARTNER x-mas party...

so that solves the dilemma for me as to wether I bring a partner or not...if we were allowed I would have had to bring a partner who speaks french, it being a French company from France...and who would have some interest in some of the conversations that take place at the party because he would be bored. LOL Either way I would have asked my cousin because it would give him contacts for creating customers in his business, and it would give him business knowledge in what he does...but this year I can't bring anyone.

as a result many have backed out because they naturally want to bring their partner...it is also 2.5 hours away.

Well...tonight I'm going to a over 40 dinner from my church, and also a Christmas party tomorrow night ( assuming I dont have to work that is) and so...no date.

I think you should not be afraid to go without a date...I think it shows that you have courage and a forthright attitude about yourself. And like I've said a ton of times...confidence is Sexy.

Have Fun!

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Originally posted by paulj_in_phx:
Well...tonight I'm going to a over 40 dinner from my church, and also a Christmas party tomorrow night ( assuming I dont have to work that is) and so...no date.

I think you should not be afraid to go without a date...I think it shows that you have courage and a forthright attitude about yourself. And like I've said a ton of times...confidence is Sexy.

Have Fun!

i agree with you confidence is very sexy you might be lucky and find a sexy confident dame...just make sure she passes over sfv for screening...

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Originally posted by paulj_in_phx:
Well...tonight I'm going to a over 40 dinner from my church, and also a Christmas party tomorrow night ( assuming I dont have to work that is) and so...no date.

I think you should not be afraid to go without a date...I think it shows that you have courage and a forthright attitude about yourself. And like I've said a ton of times...confidence is Sexy.

Have Fun!

I believe Paul is right! You are who you are and you are a single woman. If people can't accept that about you then they are not important enough to be associated with you. You shouldn't have to change nor impress anyone, they should appreciate you for who you are and nothing more. Such false images is the basis of why the divorce rate is so high now at days. When I met my EX she cleaned my apartment when I was at work to impress me, after I moved in with her though the only cleaning that ever got done was from me and when I didn't clean, things fell apart until I finally was upset and cleaned. I don't mind a mess now and then but when the only floor space you see is 3 feet from the door to the bed and she has to climb over me to get in or out of bed, there is a problem. Also 2 MOLDY ice tea glasses in the corner of the bedroom that got me extremely sick also was a bad thing to my physical health. (I didn't even know they were there until 8 months later when something that blocked them on the dresser top was moved and then they were GROSS!)

Heck, I wouldn't have cared if I did all the cleaning if I wasn't doing all the working. She was home all day long doing nothing, I had to work and clean ... what a lie I was fed when I first met her. Of course that was just the first of many.

Back to my original comment, Paul is right! Be yourself and don't try to pretend to be someone you are not. Bringing a date to satisfy a self desire to fit in is wrong because in reality you are not truly fitting in because it is not truly you. Just go and ave a good time! You don't need a man on your shoulders to have a good time, and if you find yourself wanting to leave early, you don't have to drag someone out the door to do so.