I finally did it..
my son's father takes his time paying me back for medical fees that he is legally supposed to pay 80% of. Well, it has been 8 months since I first billed him and subsequently billed him two more times since then. He called me last month and told me that he was going to send me payments. I have not gotten anything as of yet, so I just mailed out a demand letter for the $2000.00. I gave him alot of time to send something. However, I am "nervous" about his response. I know he is going to call me irate about this and I always get upset when he does this. I plan to take him to small claims court if he does not pay. I am paying monthly to creditors for this and paying interest. I just wanted some input and/or backup that I am doing the right thing. You all are so great in giving me courage to do the right things and or know that I am doing the best I can. Thank you/Thank you!!

I agree with Basically Amy if it is in your divorce decree you can head right to the child support office or talk to an attorney so that you can get all of the money back. I know that it is in my divorce decree that I pay the co-pays because he has the insurance but if it is not covered by their health insurance he has to pay me over half of the cost. I hope this helps.

KC It's hard for me to tell if my EX actually paid for any medical cost for our children in 10 years because.... He will give me $1k and tell me apply it to everything he owes for the past 6 years and he thinks everything is current.

this is how I figured out what he owed me. My divorce decree says he pays for health insurance and dental and we split 50/50 whatever cost is not covered. In the case he cannot get health insurance, I can get it and he has to reimburse me for the cost of dependents on my policy. This added up to $4,200 I paid in 2000 for covering the children. In addition, his policy won't pay for many things like the brace my son used when he broke his leg playing football. he's suppose to pay 50% of $600.... Anyway, in 10 years this adds up to around $10,000. Kinda cheap for 10 years IMO.

Well, he says something like... "Remember the $1k I gave you 4 years ago? I paid you back" And he wants me to believe the $1k is for 5 years of modifications, medical expense, christmas and birthday gifts, extra nice school supplies, winter clothes... etc.

I told him he is mixing me up with one of his 3rd world country girlfriends and I live in America the same country he was born in.


ok... sorry... back to you

check your divorce decree and I believe it may state something like he has 30 days to pay his portion when he is made aware of the medical expense. Sometimes the CSE office will assist you if you have good bookeeping records of what you paid etc.... Also, if you apply for state assisted health insurance... they may try to push the NCP to follow the decree.

"I told him he is mixing me up with one of his 3rd world country girlfriends and I live in America the same country he was born in."

OMG.. you are too funny.

I have talked to CSE and he is legally required based on the CSO to pay 78% of the medical costs after I have paid $250.00 in a calendar year. He was sent viable proof that the $250.00 was paid by me already and he owes the $2000.00 that I have been asking for. We were never married but paternity was established and he is ordered to pay 78% of medical expenses. He has always balked at paying me anything..
CSE told me to take him to small claims court because they cannot enforce the order or they do not (this is in another state) and then once I have a judgement against him they will add it to his child support order. Yes it is alot of work but it is fun seeing him sweat. I just dread the confrontation via phone by him because I have always tried to get along with him for the sake of our son and he has walked all over me because of that and I am through being nice. Thanks for the encouragement and insight..

I used to have that same problem of getting reinbursed for medical and dental bills. Now when I go to a doctor, dentist, I give them his address and the bills are sent directly to him so that he has to deal directly with the doctors office and I don't have to chase him down for that extra money.

B

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Amy,

I really thought about it before

any monies paid directly to you can be called a gift if a recipt of what the payment is for isn't written and I think signed by both people.

Of all the games he played about his income, verbal agreements, etc... hmmmm....

I've always played fair and nice and he's used it against me.

maybe this midlife crisis is telling me I can be a b**** the 2nd half.

KC mom,

if you take it to small claims, I think you may get a quick judgement since he wouldn't travel all the way to court. or he may just pay you if the judgement affects his credit.

No, I am the one who has moved. I go through his state to get the support and do the small claims. I believe I may have to do the small claims via phone just like the modification. I do not know why I have never moved the order here to my state-- they probably would enforce it much better. I think I am afraid of what may happen or it may get "screwed" up and I hate waiting in those lines down at the Social Services offices.
I will let you all know how he reacts when he gets the certified demand letter.
Thanks so much for the postings- you do not know how much they support me or make me feel better about things.