Hello everyone, I am new to SFV, I am a single mom to three children ages 4, 3, and 20 months. My ex husband is an alcoholic bipolar who has basically destroyed everything. I have lost friends, sleep and all of my dignity. I am hoping to start again, any suggestions?

I'm not sure what sort of suggestions you're after. Anything specific or just some good old support in general. One thing's for sure this is a great group of people here that can surely help either way.

Do you have a degree? I found school helped me out alot. School also helped my find a great job, great friends and the push and support from my teachers that I needed. I was in the same boat, my ex was a bartender, partied every night and slept all day. I lost my job, car and a great apt because of it. I lost alot but I never lost my dignity. Never let anyone take that, its all I had for a base to rebuild upon. You know what you like and what your good at. Try using those as tools to find yourself again and put the pieces back together little by little. Its working for me so far...

First let me say welcome.

It seems to me that what you need is a hug
Do you feel a little better?
I'm sure that this road has been a hard one but you got 3 wonderfull children out of it. I know it's easier said then done but just start thinking about what it is you do have. Sometimes you've just got to look at things from a different light. Those kids of yours saw what you saw and need love like you do. What has been destroyed can be built back up again, it just takes time and energy.

I too agree that school is a good step too (if you haven't already gone) but only if you are ready for that.

Dig dip and just do it.

Hi and welcome to the forum, my only suggestion to you is stay focused ,strong and strong minded and everything will be fine. At times things will be hard on you, but you have three beautiful children who need you. Maybe you need some way to vent and take a breather. Maybe you can go somewhere to get some me time so that you can work through somethings. I recently started to get the time that i need to sort my life out without the daily mother routine and it working beautifully. Even if its soaking in the tub , to when your children take a nap, you can read a book or just find away to relax. Believe me it works.

Thank you for your suggestions! I can't tell you how nice it is to hear so much encouraging advice. I am a teacher so I am busy during the day which helps keep my mind off things. My dignity was hurt when my husband had a quite public affair with one of my older piano students, I am a bit embarassed about it, I know it's not my fault but how crazy!!!! Just making my kids #1 focus. Thank you for your support!!!

With a three children, under the age of 4 at home you must be quite busy. My only suggestion is to embrace your family and friends and let them help you through this. I closed everyone out and became a virtual hermit and now I have no social life.

I suggest you come out to NH for coffee


Sorry joke

welcome to boards vent joke haev a good time

Thanks Bishop, NH can't be too far! LOL