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"Doing what I can"
SFV JUNKIE!!!
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So I'm so pisseddddddd right off right now.
My car broke . . . again! Yes I know considering that it has 128,000 miles on it that I shouldn't be surprised but damn it, I am. NO warning or anything. I stop and get gas after work, drive 30 minutes to Kai's daycare, shut my car off and go in to get Kai.

I get Kai in her seat (after her obsession with these damn tent worms) and turn the key . . . . strangest fricken noise I've ever heard. It turns over and makes this tink-tink sound and stahls. Try 3 more times, stahls again. Finally get it to go but with a loud tink-tink sound, and it stahls at the end of the daycare driveway. So I call the local repair shop where I always take my car and they say go ahead and drop it off, we'll take a look tomorrow. They are always so friendly. He says its probably a wheel bearing. (He's usually right).

So I drive 20 minutes to the repair shop, drop off my car and have my mom give me a ride home. Only she sees that I'm extremely pissedddddd off so she gives me her keys and says to go do my shopping and keep the car for the weekend. It was nice.

So I'm sitting here this morning waiting for the place to open so I can call at 10 to see if they looked at it yet.

I'm so so peeved. So now I'm canceling my plans to go to Disney and I'm going to try to see if my sister will let me borrow the money to fix my car. I hate asking. Otherwise, I'd have to quit my job and stay home. Which is how I felt last night.

I know that I can get my car fixed and such and I know that my sister is nice enough she will probably let me borrow the money but my God . . . I felt just unconsolable last night. I melted right down and started crying. I woke up at 4:30 and immediately burst into tears.

I can't afford a new car until Fall and I just need it to hold out until November and I'll be fine. Frowner Just disappointed

But I keep repeating "just keep swimming" in my head. I know it might sound stupid but it helped me smile this morning so that's good.

Of course when I'm on my way to take the car to the repair shop, Kai is in the back seat and as I'm talking to BAmy on the phone, Kai says "momma you need a new car!" THank you Kai. Momma didn't know that. lol
 
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"Cabana King"
At A loss for Words - NOT!
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I'm so so peeved. So now I'm canceling my plans to go to Disney and I'm going to try to see if my sister will let me borrow the money to fix my car. I hate asking. Otherwise, I'd have to quit my job and stay home.


WOOH...take a deep breath slow down.....
What if it's something simple easy and cheap....
Easier said than done but maybe you should wait untill you hear from the garage before you blow an O ring...
Contemplating options is a great idea just in case but calm down....
Wrinkles & gray hair come soon enough my dear no sense in helping it along...geez you want to look like me & Bin...

"just keep swimming".....the shore is closer than it appears...


"Madness takes it toll....Please have exact change."
 
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"Doing what I can"
SFV JUNKIE!!!
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I got a call from the repair shop:

Timing belt with chain - $200
Driver's side front tie rod - $250
Total to fix my damn car - $500

Sister said she would loan me the money - $500

Knowing that my car may last a while longer - priceless and some vodka. lol


Yes HB I know but I was going to pay the $800 for Disney with my stimulus check and now I'm gonna have to pay my sister instead. So no Disney as of now I guess.

While I'm relieved that I can fix my car, I'm feeling weird about not being able to go to Disney. I really want to and I'm thinking that if I really try, I can pull it off. I am trying to be optomistic and I know that if I really hold back on my frivolous last minute spending, I could do it.


Thanks HB for talking me down off the ceiling and you and Bin are not gray and if there are wrinkles, I want pictures. LMAO j/k (seriously, I'm just kidding)
 
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"Cabana King"
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Thanks HB for talking me down off the ceiling and you and Bin are not gray and if there are wrinkles, I want pictures. LMAO j/k (seriously, I'm just kidding)


Yeah like after Trips present yesterday I'm going to post something like that....yikes...LOL...

So much for simple easy and cheap I guess...timing belts are not something you want to do by yourself either.
It's just a hurdle in the relay of life...jump over it...
I'd hate to see you miss the Disney trip...I'm looking forward to seeing a pic of Mini-Bug with that stupid Mickey hat.
Maybe you could make payments to your sister instead of trying to pay it all back at once..

OR...you could stop beating yourself up and find a nice guy that would see to it that you never had to worry about fixing the car or missing Disney trips.... Just a weird thought on my part....

Keep Swimming....


"Madness takes it toll....Please have exact change."
 
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"Doing what I can"
SFV JUNKIE!!!
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Repair shop just called back . . . . my car has a failed cylinder (blown engine) so my car is dead.

I'm screwed!
 
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I'm sorry Sarah. Frowner

It was a true Friday the 13th for you, huh? I hope you can figure something out. I wish you lived closer to me. My Dad owns a car lot and would give you a good deal.

Thinking of you... Hug Me


Erin


 
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Well look at it this way. It could always be worse......you could be taking coffee pot baths.


My blue-eyed babies


Courage isn't the absense of fear but the willingness to act in the face of fear.
 
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"Faith is sooo yummy!"
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i do not want to know what a coffee pot bath is..

bug, i'm so sorry. can you lease a car?

my church has a cars ministry - we give cars and repair cars for folks for free. check some of theses sites...
www.donateacar2charity.com/michigan-car-donation-information.php
www.cars4charities.org/donate-car-michigan.php
www.donateyourcartocharity.org/car-donation-michigan.htmldonate-things.org/car/info/category/michigan
www.carangel.com


If you think you can, or you think you cant - you are right.
 
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Oh Sarah, I know just how this feels. I was going thru this at the exact time my ex left. Like, okay, I cannot pay the mortgage, bills are piled up AND now my car dies too. Actually it was my mother's car. My car had died months before (and years back I had a blown engine on a car I was still paying for too) and I was driving her old car. But I'm there, like, how much more can I take? Similar belt problem, and needing hundreds of dollars I couldn't spare. Well, my brother blows in like a knight in shining armor, with some retired mechanic who brought me a new belt and asked for $25 for the job. There is a God.

If you go donation route, please also consider Volunteers of America.
 
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I'm so sorry smshy. I'll make sure to say a special prayer for you at church in the morning. Wish there was something I could do for you to help you out!! Actually there might be...if you could get reduced tickets to Disney would that help? I might be able to pick some up on base and send them to you b/c we get discounted tickets for things like that, just let me know.


 
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Setting New Standards
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I am so sorry smshy, I am the same way, I hold on for so long and then something happens and I break down. After I have a good cry I tell myself OK, Paula calm down, everything always works out!! DO NOT CANCEL DISNEY!!! You need that trip. Let's see your options... 1) You can junk your car-that should bring in about $250-$300. 2) We have a mothers to work program that takes donated cars and gives them to parents who need a car in order to go to work-check with your local social services agency. 3) I am taking that you can not afford a car payment. I have horrible credit from a divorce and can not get a car loan, but I can get approved to lease a car. I looked at the bottom of the line car-$180 a month. 4) about three years ago, my dad took out a low interest loan and bought me a car on it $3,500. I made payments to him. I do not know if any of these options are viable for you but wanted to throw out some suggestions. Remember, everything always has a way of working out!!!


 
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"Doing what I can"
SFV JUNKIE!!!
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Okay I did have a great big cry, a huge blow out with my stepmom who after me telling her to leave me alone right now, she got a big FU from me then she continued talking and my dad joined in. I cried forever today. Couldn't get a hold of one of my best friends because she as well was having a shittiass day.

So the developments are: my car is junk, done, finito. BTW, It actually has 228,000 miles 228,000 miles on it, not the number previously posted. It was 10 years old and i loved that car for the most part. I will post the final pictures of it. I am junking it. My uncle towed it to his house to see what he can do as he knows a bit about cars and more than likely (99% IMO) I will scrap it for about $300.

There is a donation program here but there's a waiting list and I dont qualify; I make above the limit for state help for everything!

Secondly, my stepmom gave me her van. lol Which basically isn't too bad but not my dream vehicle. No AC but I will try to get that fixed sometime in the near future. Its free! I dont have to pay the insurance and my parents are basically taking pity on me. Which is nice I must say. I cannot make a car payment now but my plan is to save what would have cost me in insurance and rent, until Fall when I can
actually afford a car payment. I am going to deposit this money into a separate savings so that I can't touch it.

Disney is not canceled. However the lady that is setting it up may cancel is because she can't afford it, I'm banking on this!!! As I really would rather have a nice car in the fall than go to Disney. Either way, I will pay for it if we still go otherwise, if the lady cancels then we aren't going. I'm okay either way with it.

Thank you for your responses and support. I'm just having a really rough time right now.

RIP Lesbian Wagon (its the car's name) The van's name is the Mint Mojito and when you see a picture, you'll see why.
 
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"Cabana King"
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shittiass


They actually put that word in dictionaries shipped to Mi don't they...being that you know how to spell it...HA..

Although upsetting I guess the day didn't turn out so awful bad after all did it.
Sounds like an interesting relationship you have with stepmom...
Going from FU to here have my car....
Must be that million dollar smile....who could say no to that...

I'm glad it worked out for you Sarah....I cringed when you mentioned quiting your job.
And I hope the Disney trip works out too...I wanna see Mini-Bug in the Mickey hat damn it...


And 228,000 miles....do that poor thing a favor and bury it already...it's time..
Perhaps trebor was right...your car dieing today was probably a God send..

Lesson for Today Kids:
Sometimes walking on the ceiling only leaves footprints that we have clean up.....


"Madness takes it toll....Please have exact change."
 
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Hope you don't get too down. Too bad we still don't have horses anymore to get around. Just feed them right and keep it happy and our kids would friggin love em. Although there would be no DVD players. If I could trade my car for a horse I would but alas "the man would shut me down". You've got the right attitude- "just keep swimming" or in this case driving... one way or another.

Peace
 
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"Doing what I can"
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Okay I posted pics of my deceased car and the replacement that is temporary on my myspace.
 
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"Cabana King"
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Okay I posted pics of my deceased car and the replacement that is temporary on my myspace.


Now if I only knew where helll that was....


"Madness takes it toll....Please have exact change."
 
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"Doing what I can"
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Maybe Bin can post the picture since I'm at work and can't access myspace.

HB, I'm so surprised that you dont have a myspace page. Smiler
 
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"Cabana King"
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Well actually I did get one just to be able to access someone elses page but that last year and I don't know even how to get into it anymore...
Yeah I'm a putz....just not into myspace & facebook....
Would love to see the car pics though...
I'm home today maybe i can find the info on myspace...or get a new one i guess..


"Madness takes it toll....Please have exact change."
 
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Maybe Bin can post the picture since I'm at work and can't access myspace.

HB, I'm so surprised that you dont have a myspace page. Smiler


I would but I can't access MySpace at work.





"Take my hand...off to Never Never Land...." - Enter Sandman
 
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"Doing what I can"
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well dang Bin. can't you bypass that?

I will post it when I get home then and you can all see the lovely lesbian wagon in its final days.
 
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well dang Bin. can't you bypass that?


Not really, wish I could. Oh well.





"Take my hand...off to Never Never Land...." - Enter Sandman
 
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"Cabana King"
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I got bored and created a new myspace...
Now what do I do....I know I sound stupid but I'm not really...no really...no really....
Do you need my myspace url or something...


"Madness takes it toll....Please have exact change."
 
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