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Amy you did what was right for you, your daughter and the rest of the family because your daughter has to know it is not right to hit you or her siblings. Also having the police talk to her might be just what she needed to see that you are just trying to do what is best. I also agree that having her see a therapist is a good thing. She needs to talk about her angry. Good luck with everything.

Amy,

I've no idea what advice to give you. I wanted to let you know I'm thinking and praying.

I don't have any wisdom either. I wish I did. It sounds like your doing everything you can. I'll be praying for you and Katie also.

Amy, you are doing the right thing with the police when it gets to that point, lets her know it's not just you and her siblings that she will have to deal with if she keeps going like that. And even more importantly seeing about that ASAP therapy. Perhaps it will give her some better understanding and coping skills for her feelings, a lot has been happening there for all of you.

Sending some good thoughts that direction

Amy... I also think you did the right thing. Our kids need to know assault is against the law. There were a few times I warned my son to calm down and if he dared show his fist to me he would get more than an earful. (i have no idea yet what that would be but I hoped the threat kept him in line)

One heated argument in the past led me to have the police officer assigned to his school talk to him about the law and what could happen to him. (He missed his cerfew once and no one knew where he was... because of a girl )

I think as children grow into their teen years they need to be reminded they are still children and they need our help when they don't know how to vent their fustrations.

Wishing you the best.

Amy I think you did the right thing

Just be strong and through all this keep reminding her you love her.....

when things calm a little take her out for something special like getting your nails done together or something girly like that......

if worse case and she still doesn't want to live with you send her my way I will put her up make her scrub the toilet and do laundry and pick up after the other 2 kids.Let her earn her keep.....Is she gets mad let her take a swing at me that would be funny... after about 2 days she will be grateful to have a cool mom like you and may learn to clean up after herself.. lol just playing


I dont think i could take another angry female in my life

Good luck love

Amy,

I was your Katie. Gosh how I was. Only my Dad was the one that hit me instead of vice versa. I drank starting at age 12, I ran away at age 15, I was doing one hundred and one things you wouldn't want your daughter to do when you weren't looking.

I was crying out for help and got ignored.

I think you are doing the right thing. Set firm boundaries. Give her that little bit of "pre-adult" breathing room when she earns the right. I think that she's plenty old to help around the house, but my guess is that she probably has a pretty big load of that with a young boy and another with downs in the house.

I know you don't have many resources...maybe she could earn a friend to sleep over? I don't know. I'm all about the police being called (I was just threatened girls school never did much but make me laugh). I am all about taking kids doors off their hinges if needed. I'm also big on saying...there is a problem and she doesn't know how to express it any other way.

You're probably waiting on a state therapist...maybe you can get in someplace that does teen IOP group therapy quicker?

I agree with so many of them Amy. I think you are absolutely doing the right thing. You are doing what is right for Katie and your whole family. Stay tough mom, it's best for your little girl!

Love you!

I'm wondering also if maybe someone can assist you in putting the FOG (Fear of God) into her about this. Some one elses daughter or son who's been there, done that?

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Originally posted by BASICALLYAMY:
No I'm basically it when it comes to things like this. Tom thinks Katie does no wrong and Tracy is always nervous enough without dealing with this ****. I think the cop had quite an effect on her last night because she's actually been really pleasant.

Pleasant is good. One day at a time I guess.

Prayers being sent for both of you. Being a teenager is hard.


Kim

Amy....I am sure that she will get over this. Stick with what you are doing. If you stand strong and let her know you will NOT accept this type of behavior she will eventually give up. If you let her get away with it she will never stop. STAY STRONG !!!!!!

Children go through phases where they can be difficult. I was one. I didn't fit in with the other girls at school, I hated haveing rules to follow and curfews to abide by. I was a very angry and self destructive adolescent. I know my mother stayed on my *ss and I was afraid to break rules and curfew. If she would have given me an inch I would have taken it for a mile. I appreciate now that she was so strong. I know it is difficult. I am the worst at discipline.

Take care Amy. Oh, and good luck.

Jennie.

I just remembered one punishment that sticks out that I received about Katie's age.

My parents made me write a 4 page paper on the commandment "honor thy mother and father"......

Yeah....that sucked big and I even like writing and stuff.

you're doing a great job Amy. I think teenagers don't know how to handle their emotions sometimes and it escalates ..... they say emotional maturity is one of the last stages of brain develpment in children which starts around their teen years.

Hope things improve.