Hello everyone, It's been a long time since my last posting, and since then alot has happened. My child support situation has improved and things between my ex & I are better.(which is great for the kids) Now my problem seems to be that I am really lonely. I went back to college and work part time which takes up alot of time.The rest of the time I am with the kids. Baseball practice, swimming lessons,etc. I am so busy that I don't have the time to go out and meet people.The few guys that I have dated have been flakes and I've noticed that when I mention that I have twins, it really freaks them out. (Even when I try to explain that my children have a great relationship with their father.) So it's not like I'm trying to find a father for my kids ! I have been hurt alot by different men and I know have some trust issues, but hey, after what I've been through I have reason to have my doubts. I have been keeping busy with school and getting my stuff together within the past year. But now I am truly starting to feel lonely and wonder if I will ever meet a man worth while. If you understand where I am coming from, please reply to this posting, at least so that I know that there are others out there like myself. Or if you have any ideas feel free to let me know. Thanks !!

Hi, you wanted to know if there are others that are like yourself. Well, I think we have a little in common. Actually, I am envious because you can go out to work and meet adults there. Or is that an illusion ? doesn't work not help that way ?

Hi, you wanted to know if there are others that are like yourself. Well, I think we have a little in common. Actually, I am envious because you can go out to work and meet adults there. Or is that an illusion ? does work not help that way ?

Hi

Yeah, I know what you mean. When you say you have kids, that's it. But the worst part for me is the trust issues... I feel I need to protect myself cause I can't take being hurt again.

It's good that you have the chance to go to College and work. I'm going back to university in september. I was hoping that would be of great help for my social life and all. Don't tell me it is not true.

Anyway, yeah, you are not the only one feeling lonely. It'll soon get better, don't you think?

A big hug from Montreal

Lvaldez:

I know JUST how you feel. I have a 2 year old, and am expecting another in October. I feel like all I do is work, sleep, and play with my son. I love him to pieces, but the weekends especially, can get really lonely. I think my life would feel so much less stressful if I had someone to share it with; even to just watch a movie or hang out.

It's been - wow, I have to stop & think here - a LONG time since I met anyone nice. You're right, lots of weirdos out there. My son's father and I were getting along ok, and even thinking of getting back together when I realized I was pregnant. He didn't want it. Now, he says he is looking forward to the baby, but we haven't lived together since before my son was born. And I wasn't interested in a part-time boyfriend/father to my kids. So, that's that.

It does get lonely, I know. I'm not sure what the answer is, but finding ways to meet the type of people you want to meet is all I can think of. Take a class, join a gym, etc. - take some time just for you. Easier said than done, I know!

Well, good luck. You are not alone out here!

Cheryl

okay, I definitely know what it's like. I have five year old twin girls. I'm a full time teacher, and I go to school part time for my masters degree. My kids' father is out of state. Honestly, I have had a lot of luck meeting guys online. You have to be picky, but they know up front that you have kids, and....you can be more selective. I have met a really great guy and we've been dating for a while. I'd say that every bf I've had from the internet has been way better than any I had before that. Mostly it's because the opportunities just aren't there for busy moms like us.