Hello all!

I'm new here - just joined today! Yes you read the title right. I have four children all born in June 2001 - three boys and one girl. Life is busy....

Yes, we used fertility treatments, spent 8 years and lots of heartache before hitting the jackpot! Once I got pregnant with the quads, the husband started to get distant. He apparently didn't want the responsibility of caring for children after all. Too bad, they're great kids. Lost his job when they were babies and didn't have the interest in getting another. Didn't help with the kids, didn't help with the housework, and then didn't help with the income. So, I left him a year and a half ago and am living with my parents, going back to college for nursing, and eager to be independent.

I just wish I had a better network of single parent friends. So I'm hoping maybe here I'll find some. I joined Parents Without Partners, but the first event I went to was filled with seniors that were 60+, most were probably in their 80s. I knew I was in the wrong place when the discussion was centering around their grandchildren and the cost of burial as opposed to cremation. YIKES!!!! I'm just getting through potty training!

HELP!

Julie
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Originally posted by snrn:
[qb] Life is busy... [/qb]

:award: congratulations! :award:

You've just won the award for "Understatement of the Year"!

Stick around, I'm sure many of us here could use your advice and experience!!

:welcome:

Welcome!!!! OK sounds like you've got things working out for now anyway! Independence? With 4 little ones? hmmmmmmmmmm???? I'm at my wits end here with what I've got so I'm not going to go and tell you to make any changes.... Once you get working you can certainly move out but I'd suggest waiting until they are in 1st grade. IT is always doable, but even if your parents would sit for you as opposed to daycare (which will be outrageously priced) just the juggling of getting them out of your home and over to theirs and getting to work ontime is rough. I say get used to working again first, at the very least.

What are your children's names? One thing I do know is when you are potty training more than one, that missing diaper bill is like a MIRACLE! (until all the other stuff starts)

How was your pregnancy? When were they born? What are their names?

The kids will be in 2nd or maybe 3rd grade when I'm able to move out. I'm real worried about how I will afford child care, especially outside of normal business hours since I'm going into the medical field. Somehow it'll work, though, it's just gotta! I'm trying hard not to depend on my parents once I move out. They really don't want to be tied down with the kids, and I can't say as I blame them. After all, they've raised theirs!!!

My pregnancy was a relatively easy one, compared to most high order multiple pregnancies. I was on modified bedrest at home for a couple of months, then was admitted to the hospital when I was 24 weeks pregnant. Stayed for 5 weeks, having contractions every other morning for the last 2 weeks, then delivered at 28 weeks and 5 days (just a little over 6 months gestation). I came down suddenly with acute preeclampsia on June 16, 2001, so they did an emergency C-section that day. They felt my life was in danger - liver and kidneys were failing. Ended up with a terrible anesthesiologist who didn't do the epidural correctly. When they suctioned out the afterbirth, I felt it all. It was the worst pain of my life and at the time thought I was dying. Then had to go back into the OR for a second surgery to repair a bleeder. Tough delivery, but got four healthy, very tiny babies in return. Couldn't be happier! They weighed 2 lbs. 3 oz., 1 lb. 14 oz., 2 lbs. 8 oz., 2 lbs. 9 oz. They spent between 7 weeks and 15 weeks in the NICU, but came home healthy.

Their names are Stosh Alon, Noach Ari, Rivkah Ivanova and Nuriel Alexander. Born 6/16/2001. Now they're wild and noisy 4-year-olds!!! HELP!!!

Julie
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Welcome welcome!

Well bless you that you have a couple minute to even log on here.

Quads, and nursing school. Well I certainly applaud you.
Thank goodness for your parents. Don't worry a head of time about the child care. Deal with it closer to the actual time it will be needed. Who knows what your situation may be then.
I have a friend who bought a pretty big house, and she has two full time university students living with her. In exchange to rent they babysit. Between the two of them it works out fine.
With the four of them it will be a challenge for sure, but I am sure there have been many challenges you have already faced and come through.
quads - wow.

Those are spectacular weights for babies that early!

A student would be a perfect solution, hard to find the right one but if you start looking looking looking you will find the right person (an energetic one of course)

I had a bad bad anesthesiologist, took over an hour for my epi which never worked one bit except to cause neck spasms and my neck has not been the same since..... then I ended up in a section and told them to up the epi.... I guess he did but once in the OR I was like, UM, I felt that.... I felt that cut, left to right.... my dr. just looked at me like WHAT?

They still didn't do anything until I was telling him EXACTLY where his hand was in me. lovely.... the dr. looked at the anest. and said DO SOMETHING. They said, OK Susan you are going to feel a little funny.

OMG I told them all I was melting into the table... I was sure the bright light was in front of me and I was floating off to Heaven.... apparently it was just the or light and the drugs because I woke up to 2 screaming babies! (totally off subject, I know, just felt the need to shareLOL)

OMG, you have my prayers and lots of them. I have 12 year old twin boys and a 15 year old girl. OMG, you still have lots of my prayers. I too did college with my babies as little babies. It is hard but it has come in handy. I by no means am getting rich but my kids have food in their bellies and a roof over their heads.
Keep you head up and cry when you need to, eat as much ice cream as you want (if they leave more than the melted and refrozen splotches on the sides of the container) and try to laugh at the crazy and overwhelming stuff (i.e. drawings on the wall made from "finger paint found in diapers" )

Wow you are one busy mum!!! I don't know how you do it I have a hard time with 3 I have a 9 year old daughter and twin boys who are 3.

SNRN, I have just seen your post now. I have a two year old and twins who are 6months now.

I no longer feel as though I have a right to complain. I do not know how you do it girl, hats off to you!!!!

You must be an incredibally strong person to raise quads on your own.

You are my inspiration, if you can raise quads there no way I cannot do this on my own with my children! Thank you!!!!

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Originally posted by snrn:
I joined Parents Without Partners, but the first event I went to was filled with seniors that were 60+, most were probably in their 80s.

Dang! Sorry but I couldn't help but laugh at this one. It reminds me of the time my ex and I stopped off at a restaurant during one of our travels. It was packed full of people shouting, we couldn't understand it. But as we looked around, every single one of them were white-haired, cain holders LOL No wonder they were shouting! We had a good laugh to ourselves and tried to blend in .. um .. somehow.