first off i am new on this board. allow me to kill 2 birds with one stone. i am 22 years old and just found out today i am going to be the father of twins. i am happy but oh'so scared. giving a lil background info if i may. i had been dating the mother of my children for only a few months when she told me she was pregnant. we lived here in illinois. after only a few months of dating she dcided it would be better for the baby if she were to move back to the town her family lives in in nebraska, and break up with me and want nothing to do with me whatso ever. around easter she left and we have only kept in contact when i get the news from the latest doctor appointments. well today was the ultra-sound. i got the news that were having twins. a boy and a girl. this has been the hardest thing to deal with. i have a great job here with room to move up and a roof over my head that i rent. life isnt too bad. now that there are going to be twins i want to go to omaha, find a job and be there as much as i can even if i have to just come over on weekends. i hate leaving what i have but i see no other way to be in my childrens lives. how do you single fathers do it?
also, is there a site or somthing i can read up on about child support, i know she will be wanting that :/

well i hope i havent rambled too long on my introduction
"shrop"

as I was reading your post, I can't help thinking to myself, is this what my boyfriend is thinking right now?? LOL.. we've also been dating for a few months when I got pregnant -- he was happy and scared when he found out, then when he started being cranky at the onset of my 5th month, I decided to move away from him and live in the town close to my mom's house.

Anyway, congratulations on your fraternal twins! I'm sure there are others here -- particularly the single dads -- who can answer your questions on child support. Welcome!

Hmmm...did i read that right? LOL joking..

Do you want to be with her? Just curious... what caused the break up? Do you love her? Was it hormones and fear that got her to just leave like that? Pregnancies can be a very strange thing for women depending on her past etc...

as for the child support i live in canada so it is very different here than in the states i would assume.

Congratulations on the twins by the way that is exciting news.

One idea I have is your going to need an education fund LOL so how about starting with that. One is hard enough to save up for let alone two, so the earlier the start the better.

i guess i cant say for sure waht caused the break up. she was here and was happy and we were plannin to both move back to her home town. i put in my notice at work, i found another job, i was set to but a deposit on an apt. she decided to go on ahead ofme and get things ready for me to bring all of my stuff and what clothes and stuff i have of hers. about 1 week b4 i was supposed to leave she told me she doesnt love me, never did, and doesnt want to date me just because of the babie, now babies. she told me yesterday she doesnt have any problomes with me moving out there to help but she doesnt want me to "bother" her, which i think means come help but dont try and be with her. i love the gir with all my heart. i wold do anything to be with her IF thats what SHE wants, but its not. i wanna be there for the kids tho. so i think im gonna go around october.. the babys are due between nov13 and 19. i guess theres always a chance we might workin things out once i get there, but im not counting on it.

Welcome to the board!

Wow, twins, congrads!

Sounds like all you can do is try and if things work out that's great, considering you do love her. If they don't at least your children will have a father that is picking up his life and moving for them and will be there for them. You never know with a pregnant woman with all those crazy hormones running around, she might see things differently if you move there and are doing what you can to help before and after the babies get here. Anyways I hope it works out for you!

And stick around you'll find a lot of support and great advice here!

Gabriel's Mom

Congratulations!!
I wish I had more advice to give...Mostly I just wanted to reply because you mentioned Omaha. Noone seems to be anywhere near here.
Anyways, I honestly couldn't imagine going through pregnancy and giving birth without having my family around for support. (Especially having twins) Maybe that could have been motive to move. Could her family be putting on some pressure? I have had to learn to tune out my family when they give unsolicited "advice" and "suggestions" in regards to my personal life.
If you want to be closer to your children, I think that is awesome. If you were already planning on moving it doesn't sound like such a crazy idea, I guess.
I am sure the fathers here will give you some great insight. As for child support, I am just starting the process...soon to be a professional.

Congratulations!

And let me say, it is always great seeing a father who really wants to be involved

i say move. it is a grand gesture that may not get you an "in" with her, but it will show her that you are going to do what it takes to be a great father.

as for the break-up. well... pregnancy does some funny things to women... i know for me - i consider my pregnancy and a full year after as a time of long-term temporary insanity of course don't tell her that, b/c i'dve killed someone that said that to me!

Wish you luck and welcome! This is a great place for support

oh yeah... and of course moving will help assure that you will see your children. otherwise, they may be more lost to you.

all of this is making me feel better about going out there. as far as her family goes, i talk to her mom and shes very supportive of me being active with the babies. i think i get pushed away by my ex because her mother married as the result of a pregnancy. and she doesnt want to do that seeing how unhappy her mom was. plus her mom "asking" about me all the times doesnt help. my ex has "forbid" be to talk to her mom unless an emergency i just need to find a job out there that is gonna be able to support them.
anyone hiring land surveyors in omaha lol

well i talked to my ex today and she was NICE?? i didnt understand she didnt even ask for anything hahah.. i should be more nice lol. well she said her dad maybe able to help find a job out there making good money. and she offered to get the name of the nearest apartment complex atleast shes helping, this is definatly a step in the right direction. im happy

What great news!!! It's great that her parents are open and friendly. I'm sure her family needed time to get over the inital shock before they can plan to make the best out of it. Hopefully, they know your intentions are genuine.

her mom has been supportive from day one. her dad i have accualy yet to meet. my family is totally supportive and my dad accualy offered to start a savings account for the babys
my uncle whos been like a father to me and is my employer currently as well as land lord and lean holder on my truck, does not want me to go at all nor talk about it. he is going to be very difficult to have to convince im leaving. without making my life not so fun along the way.

Hey XYtwinsXX

Get a truck with a back seat, I have an old '77 F250 crew cab and my 9yo daughter doesn't want me to get rid of it, it tows my boat.

i would love to keep my truck, but its not exactly twins friendly.. or child friendly for that matter. lol. im looking for a blazer
this is the truck im selling its been my pride and joy for 3 years.. i hope to get another project once the babys grow up a lil more.

Nice truck! And good composition of the photos (LOL, I'm into photography). I like the one with the sunset backdrop. If it doesnt have a backseat, then I guess it's really not twin-friendly. A van or blazer is good because it will have rooms for the kids to play in it.