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Parent on Board |
I had to comment!!!
Couple time is VERY hard to come by when you don't want to expose your kids to a new BF too soon, but what happened to "me" time? I can't find it anywhere!!! When my kids finally go down at night that is when I am able to finally get some housework done because trying to clean up behind them has proven to be fruitless. I sneak in between chasing after them around the house and tending to their needs to post or reply to anything on here...it is just driving me nuts just trying to take a shower without the house collapsing around me if they happen to be awake!!! Most of the time I try to wake up before they do, but they seem to always beat me to that and are waking me up...(who needs an alarm clock in my house?). It is just so frustrating!!! LMAO!!!! Sometimes I am doing the best I can just to keep myself all together to make it through the day without pulling my hair out...LOL!!!  I must say that when they are with their dad (a total of ten hours a month, roughly) I MISS them!!! What am I thinking?!?!?! Sometimes I don't know what to do with myself, it is such strange territory when I don't have them!!! LMAO I will say, though, that I wouldn't give this up for the world...I am not really complaining..I am just wondered if y'all felt the same or am I REALLY going nuts???  ~*Actions Speak Louder Than Words*~ http://bethany-edwards.spaces.live.com/ "Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well." - Lord Chesterfield |
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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
Mannnnn! Do I HEAR YA!!
I want ME time so bad...I've even entertained the thought of forgetting a girlfriend altogether and get back to my few nights out a week by myself relaxing and having a beer after the gym. Seriously. But,...that would mean giving up sex....Dangit...fish ..or cut bait? Arrgh...what to do, what to do.  I'm a man of many mysteries and sides....SO many I'm practically round!! |
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I had several hours without my kids last Saturday. My mom took them...so that I could re-write my resume. She took them from 9:40-3pm. It took me until 1:42 to get my resume work done. After that I debated what to do with my 90 min. Well..I fed myself, took a hot bath, and a nap.
When did "me" time translate into A)something I had to do anyway B)something I had to do anyway and C) something that didn't work because the second I felt like I was about to fall asleep they showed up!!! Anyhow...I hardly ever get that opportunity where both of my kids are gone at the same time. It's like a blue moon event, but I've discovered if I ask for it...my family is more willing to give up their time and help me out. I guess I just forgot how to ask for time off!    "Hope" is the thing with feathers- That perches in the soul- And sings the tune without words- and never stops-at all... Emily Dickinson |
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Parent on Board |
I can relate to that...filling it up with things that you have to do verses enjoying your time w/o kids. But even that can be a good thing. You get it all done faster without having to keep the peace between siblings, et cetera.
My parents aren't so willing to babysit, so I don't get a break unless the ex comes to take the boys for a few hours a month.  By then, I have a long to-do list that it never seems like enough time for everything and some me time. It gets to be overwhelming at times!  ~*Actions Speak Louder Than Words*~ http://bethany-edwards.spaces.live.com/ "Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well." - Lord Chesterfield |
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Board Beacon Parent |
i cannot stand tobi going to his father's (only 3 overnight stays since i moved out, and monday evenings when i have class). if i am in class, then my mind is preoccupied but i still keep wanting to call and talk into the phone with him. and when he is gone over night i go crazy.
all of a sudden i lose all energy to get anything done and can't come up with or find the motivation for anything for myself. i do have a goal to go see a movie alone though. never done that.   http://web.mac.com/heidihannah/iWeb/heidi%20hannah/Welcome.html Frankly Scallop, I don't give a clam! |
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I am New to SFV |
I'm not sure I understand "me" time??? I'm with "me" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you get the idea.. Anyways, I guess I would rather pass extra or free time with someone around to share it with. This is coming from a guy that is sitting home alone on a Saturday night while my daughter is with her mother this weekend.. I'm still looking for that someone.
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"SFV Hopeless Romantic..and I stress "HOPELESS"" Setting New Standards |
What is this "me time" and how do I get some? LMAO
I do know exactly what you mean -the only time I have anyone watch the kids is when one of them had to be taken to an appt. or an dance or cheerleading. And I only have one babysitter, my mom she is so tired from trying to watch wich ever child isnt with me forget about taking all of them. All I really want is a bubble bath with Harry conwickjr on the radio and no one coming in to bug because they need me to do something for them.Or is it that they have a plot to make sure mommy doesn't sit still for two long? btw...I love my monsters I mean angles http://myspace.com/sugarand3  Courage doesnt always roar, sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying "I will try again tomorrow." |
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Board Blazen Parent |
I can totally relate. If I am not with the baby, I am at work. Doesn't leave much time. I get ready while she naps, and if she doesn't --whew!! There is no left over time to have for me.
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"KARMA? What is that anyways?" Board Beacon Parent |
i find time for me in the morning after all i have always been a morning person. i get up around 4:30 make coffee shwer and drink coffee. sitt and reply to things on here while drinking coffee and making another pot ocoffee. go outside to smoke and relax as the house is still quiet dink more coffee enjoying no kids running and screaming get dressed for work while drinking more coffee and then around 6:15 get the boys up. ALL H3LL breaks loose. omg its a riot     "I find an insignificant satisfaction in sitting on my television and watching my couch! Dallas Blair http://www.myspace.com/dallasblair Lost in Washington state in the rain DISCLAIMER This is my personal opinion. Please take it as such! If i have offened you in any way please feel free to email me and tell me all about it me at idontgiveArats455@sowhat.com |
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Board Blazen Parent |
I think the only me time there is takes place after she goes to sleep. But before my time can start, I clean up the house, pack her things for the next day, and take care of other odds and ends. Usually by the time that is all finished, I am ready for bed.
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I am New to SFV |
Frankly, I dont have enough time for couple time or me time. I'm up at 6 am every morning, get the children to school by 9. Leave my house by 10 for work or school. I work 6 days a week and I dont get out untill midnight sometimes but usually I get out at ten. By then I'm usually so tired I just go home and pass out. Besides, no one wants to date at 11 pm unless its in the bar scene...YUK... My one day off I do housework and hang out with the children all day, cook dinner for the family that night, and finish housework when everyone leaves. Me time is when I sleep... Couple time is non-existent...
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wow and i thought it was just me with this problem, me time doesn't exist. When i'm in the shower they come int he bathroom with me, when i cook and clean they are with me. when i sleep the come in their with me .When their at their fathers (once a month from saturday night until sunday afternoon) they are still with me because i think about them constantly. So in between cleaning, cooking, working at night and barely getting any sleep because they"re is still one at home with me in the morning me time or free time does not EXIST........
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Learning to Surf The Board |
ME time does exist you just have to make it work. Their father does not help me Monday through Friday but he does have them every weekend thank God. I totally take advantage of it and I promise it will get better and the kids get older. My boys are 13 and 11 and trust me they do not hang around me when we are in the house. I can go to my room and shut the door. You have to create your moments of alone time. My best moments is waking up Saturday mornings to the sound of absolutley nothing!!!
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