Hello

I'm a single dad of two, b11 and g13. I have 100% custody. There mother has bipolor issues. She use to be in town, but has left. This is the kids first mothers day with out her.

I tell them that she has "issues" and its not because of them she left. She has a hard time making decisions. She loves them but has a hard time loving herself.

Question?? Good answer, bad answer, do you have a better answer??? Also, how should I handel mothers day? I planned to wear a dress and wig...you know as a joke. We tend to joke about serious subjects in my family...bad idea?

Need a female point of view here...

Hey Billy,
Good to see a local person...not to many of us on here.

My Kids' mom has "issues" as well. I suggested to my kids (the first year) that they make something for her....anyway; trying to instill the idea, that sometimes you give, or honor "the position or title, or place of honor" instead of just the person.

My kids decided to make her a Music Video of Home Movies, ....of moments she missed ....it's pretty heartwreching considering what they had just been through a few months prior...but they did a good job, and have continued to do so each year since.

Hope that helps.

And Welcome to the forum.

LOL love the wig and dress idea. That's funny.

However on a more serious note, I'm going along the lines with Paul . . . have them make her a card or something and just keep it. That way they can kind of celebrate mother's day.

I dont mean to be the rain cloud but I think its gonna be hard either way. I would suggest just trying to spend quality time with your kids that day more than you normally would maybe.

Maybe they could write a poem expressing their feelings, just as a keepsake. They may even get to give it to her one day.