Hi everyone,
I am new here and just looking for some people who can relate to my situation.

Divorced/no child support -- twin 2 year old boys, pregnant with triplets(yes multiples run in the family). After the 31st of this month we'll have no place to live... the internet and phone will be gone on the 26th.

I get food stamps so we thankfully don't have to worry about food. I have been working hard and having my kids in daycare ever since I left the abusive ex... but I got laid off and now with the pregnancy... I can already feel I am so tired..

Maybe I am posting TMI... but the dad of these triplets is in Australia -- we were to be getting married this summer, but when I told him about the kids he got angry and said they aren't his. There is no way they could be anyone else's but his. Regardless I have no support...

I am just hoping to get my kids potty trained before the babies arrive(february) or else I'll have 5 in diapers.

Any advice on what to do? I've looked into section 8 but they say there is a two year waiting list. I have applied for cash assistance so I hope something comes from that soon...

BTW I'm just writing all this to introduce myself... although times are tough right now, I feel a sense of peace and I believe in God and miracles.

blessings,

Amanda

Wow Amanda, what a story. First, welcome to SFV. What you'll find here is a whole bunch of really nice, loving people who may not have the solutions to your problems, but will cheer you on every step of the way.

I don't know anything about Louisiana, but there just has to be some kind of program, some help, for moms in your situation. Also, in many communities businesses give freebies to mothers of multiples to help with the expense. If anyone qualified for that, you would!

Is there no way to GET support from the Australian dad? Could you maybe look into a free legal consultation, or is there family that could help you pursue it? You're going to need help keeping them all in diapers and binkies, and he's responsible. Even if it took a DNA test after they're born to prove to him that they're his, you're entitled to support and the kids are entitled to know that their father helped support them.

Just my two cents' worth!

Hang in there, Amanda. Things have a way of working out.

Thanks so much for your response. As soon as the babies are born, I will submit bloodwork for the paternity test as long as he cooperates. This is mainly just to prove my innocence to his sweet family. They had welcomed me and my boys with open arms... and I know they only turned cold because he poisoned their minds... so I want very much for them to see that I was telling the truth all along. And I would not withhold them from seeing their grandbabies regardless of their son's behavior. As far as any support... unfortunately if the guy is out of the country, our laws don't have jurisdiction -- so as long as he stays out, he won't have to pay a cent.

I've applied for welfare here and am hoping that gets approved soon... either way we have to be out of this apartment by the 31st... I've always been Ms Independence... ironic the situation I find myself in.

wonderful to meet you!

Hi Amanda....welcome to SFV! All I can say is wow...and have to agree with jwriter that this group may not have all the answers to your problems but we are here to support you every step of the way!

About your ex....even though he is out of the country, is he a US Citizen? If he is, you can still collect the child support from him...citizenship usually trumps the living location. If he even works for the US gov't as in the military or a contractor without being a US citizen you can also still collect the child support from him.

You said that you are already collecting food stamps, have you applied for WIC (Women Infants & Children)? You should definitely be eligible for that and atleast it will save you on milk, eggs, juice, peanut butter, and formula once the babies are born.

Anyway welcome to the group and hang in there!

Hello Amanda and welcome to SFV! I'm new here too and I was just going through and reading posts. First I would like to encourage you and let you know to stay strong. I know at times, hearing that can be easier said then done. My sitation is a little similar to yours. I was with the father of my child for a year when he decides to up and move without letting me know anything. I later found out that he had 4 other children and can possibly be married. (He denies it.) So I filed for child support and the enforcement officer helped me get all the information I needed. Since you have food stamps, try going to your local aid office and getting additional information. Out here, I had to apply for it at my aid office. I later googled child support and filed my own case. I can look further into it for you if you want me too.

Just to help you stay encourage, I can send you a pray for guidance. God bless you!