I have found out Im pregnant - Im now 11 weeks gone. I found out at 6 weeks and I was still with the father, I've never seen anyone as excited as he was about becoming a dad - we told both our families the same day as we found out. 2 weeks later things went wrong between us and now he has decided he wants absolutely nothing to do with me or the baby - he wont even go on the birth certificate. Im really scared about doing this on my own and keep crying hoping he'll change his mind! Ive asked him to meet and talk about things and he said no. He dont want a scan pic which I have next week and I dont no wether to wait around for him to change his mind or cut him out completely - Im scared and confused!!!!!

Lots of things could be happening. I don't mean to speak of all guys but their thought process can be confusing when it comes to life changing events.

As for going on the birth certificate, is it required in your country to have HIM be the one to put his name on it? Because in the US we can put the father's name on it ourselves no matter what "he" says. Now, we could be challenged to a paternity test so in the US we need to make sure that he is the father.

I'm sorry that you are going through this but I, myself, am going to be a single mom, too. One thing that has helped me is that I am not the first single mom nor will I be the last. My best friend has 4 kids and has raised them all herself! So, if she can do it with being on state assistance and hardly a 30 hr minimum wage job, then I can do it on a salaried job with great benefits. You can too!

Do not be scared or confused - you are doing the right thing by having your precious baby, with or without a father. I speak from experience. I had a much regretted abortion at 6 weeks (after finding out I was pregnant and the dad leaving me the day I found out), about 10 years ago. Huge mistake, one I regret every single day. Then, I became pregnant from a brief relationship, subsequently determining the father was no good. I joyously have this beautiful child, alone and on my own, and not a day goes by that I do not rejoice in her and cherish her with all my heart. So you can do it, with or without him, you can do it. God will help you.

Don't be scare, it'll all work up at the end, the women here can relate more to you than I can.
Stick around !!!

Adrian