How come a man could be in a seemingly perfect relationship with a woman and then when the baby comes, they leave? AND THEN, they usually turn around and find another woman and maybe even get her pregnant too or take care of her children and not his own (like he should)? I hear this same story over and over again.

Is it that they feel they can come back whenever they want because they first will always take him back?

Is it that they know its more work to take care of a child when living with the mom and they are avoiding this?

Are they extremely greedy and want as many women who will have them, disregarding the children's best interest?

I don't understand. Some men even want the baby and when the baby comes they leave. And marriage is not the solution either because married men do it too.

Having kids doesn't make you a Father, any thirteen year old can do it. There is no real good answer to your question other then maybe he feels safe with the other womans children because the genetic bond is not there and he can leave anytime without ties.

I wondered about that for a while. Then while studying Roman history.... their society had the same issues with infidelity and children born out of wedlock. Many historians believe that is why social/moralistic laws were developed to save their society.

IDK.... what the answer is. My EX has raised his GF's children for a while... even paid them more child support than he paid his own for a long while. Most of his intentions are just that... good intentions... they never came through.