I know this is going to sound weird but I promise it is the truth. Friday morning my daughter tells me that she had a dream that we crashed our our car into a green car. Well after work on friday there was a green car in front of us and he swerving all of the road needless to say we almost crashed into this green car. Well this morning she got up and she said "Mommy I had a dream that my daddy went to jail and he was killed in there." Now I do not watch and violent movies and I do not allow her to either. She did see her father this weekend for the first time since Christmas (we live in the same town.) He just never has time for her. I am really scared because it is like she can see what is going to happen. I just told her that it was just a dream and that daddy is going to be fine. Her father and I get along on a speaking only basis. I say Hi to him and he says hi to me and that is it. I have no conversation with this man at all. I honestly cannot stand the way he treats her and she does not have these dreams until she is around him. Every time I say something to him about something I think is wrong I am the mean one who is always accusing them of things so I just keep my mouth shut and I now only let her go over there on occasion. Does anyone know why this is happening to her or how I can help her. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Aisha-

Even if you do not allow her to watch violent movies that does not guarantee that she will not be exposed to violent material. My daughter has had bad dreams off of seeing the news, commercials, and things people say around her. As far as the thing with the green car goes, you did not crash into it so I would not put too much weigth on that. As far as the dream about the daddy, if she does see things before they happen, there really isn't much you can do about what she saw. You can;t stop someone from going to jail or getting killed. It's not like the show Early Edition or the movie Final Destination. and most likely, if she can't see into the future (you can't base her abilities on one instance of what could be thought to be coincidence) you really should not scare people over bad dreams or give her the impression that her bad dreams will come true.

My advice: don't freak out over your kids bad dreams. she will too and that could be very traumatizing for her.

I think you miss understood me because I said that I told her her daddy will be fine. I have not said anything to anyone else about these dreams and i did not really freak out I was really just trying opinions on if it really meant anything or not. I mean like wow I did not mean to offend you I was just stating what happended and I had no idea what to think. This is actually not the first time she has dreamed of things happening and they actually happened or came really close it is just that they have never been like this before. Next time I need to get answers I guess I should it word my story differently. Thanks for opinion any way though.

I wasn;t offended and I am sorry you read it that way. Good luck.

I don't really know what to tell you about this. Is it possible that she has heard someone say something or that one of her friends at school has had a similar experience? I know that when Ty was 3, a friend of his had his father die of a heartattack and the mother and kids found him on the floor when they got home. Ty started telling people that his dad had died. This wasn't true at all as his father was alive and well across town, but he didn't know him and assumed that the same thing happened. I agree w/Pita, though. Just because you don't let them watch it on TV or in movies doesn't mean that they aren't going to see something anyway. You can't shield them.

Good luck to you.

Pumkin, I get the impression from your post that you think your daughter may have a gift, but you are not sure. I also get the impression that if she does or does not have a gift that you are not sure how to handle it and do not want to lie to her about Dad in case it happens.
I do believe that some people have a special gift to tell things that other may not be able to know. Maybe you can simply give her support and let her talk about her dreams without a real reply. I mean acknowledge what she says but try not to put your oppinion into it. I don't know if it will work but you could give it a try.
I wish you the best.

Punkin, I think that you should listen to your daughter, but not let her know that you are spooked by this. You never know what things are capable of really happening. My 5 year old son had a dream just recently that an angel came to him and told him some things that he needed to know. He said that the angle was a little boy like him, and when he was done talking to him, the angle flew away. He said things like the angel does not live on the planet that we do, and he told me he has dreamt about him more than once. I am not a religous person. I have never taken my children to church, or even talked to them about god or heaven. I do not believe in christianity. So this was very odd to me. I just didn't jump to conclusions, and just let him talk about how the dream made him feel. Who knows what kids see, or think that they see. Good Luck!!!

I just realized that I was typing angle, not angel.

Oops!!!!

I can say that I know for a personal fact that kids can dream something before it happens. I say this from personal experience growing up. What that's all about I don't really know other than it happened at various times. It also seemed to only be correct up to a certain point. I could be reliving the dream exactly, and then it would just end up turning out different. I also know there were TONS more dreams that never were more than just dreams, no matter how real they seemed.

There's also a lot to be said for dream interpretation. If indeed that was the green car she dreamed about, you didn't crash. I agree to let her talk to you about it and try to keep neutral about what she is saying. As you did already, assure her that her dad is fine. I don't want to be a downer, but say he somehow ends up going to jail, there's really nothing that can be done but to let that reality take it's course, and hopefully should that happen it will still turn out to end differently. I just mean there's really nothing you can change about that. And to me it's not too surprising that she could dream about things such as that, without being exposed to voilent TV shows or whatever. It's the very hard to understand subconscious mind at work.

See how it goes for a while.