I have left my husband over a month ago and I am worried my child is struggling with the 4 days each, joint custody. When he is with my ex he goes to work with him (in truck) and then when he is with me, we live with my parents, and he never wants to go to daycare. I just feel so sorry for him. I don't know how to make things easier. Should I get my own home with just me and him????

Hello,

Joint custody is getting more and more common, and it sounds really rough on the kids. At the same time, it is nice to see fathers getting to spend more time with their kids. By "get my own home," are you saying move out of your parents house or are you saying try to get sole physical custody?

If you mean moving out of your parents house, then it might be the right thing to do; it depends on your parents really. Some parents are helpful and some are hurtful to Single Parents.

If you mean trying to get sole physical custody: Unless something has changed since joint custody was awarded, I think it would be hard to modify the custody arrangement.

Welcome to the site,
Bobby

I have to agree with Bobby about the custody issue. In Michigan you have to demonstrate a "substantial change in circumstance" to even get a judge to consider altering custody, this is to ensure stability in the child's life. It sounds like your son isn't adjusting well to the joint custody arrangement at all, so the most direct route may be to take him to see his pediatrician and get a referral to a child psychologist, if he is being emotionally traumatized by the situation a judge is more likely to adjust the custody to reflect the best interests of the child.

Best of luck.

about three months ago, i moved out of my bf's apt and into my parents. we just wern't getting along and were having some explosive fights. we have two sons- almost two and 7 months. while the courts have told you the legal stuff about who spends time with the child and when. it is still ultimately up to the both of you. if you guys can put your differnces aside and think about what your child wants you two can work something out on your own.
even though we are not technically together. my kids' dad and i will still have some "family time". we still will go to the water park together, all four of us, or even just hang out together. then at the end either he will take them both or i will.

IDK what your whole situation is, but Im sure your child is still adjusting to the changes. having more family around has been helpful to me. plus i remember being by myself all the time with just my kids got really lonely.

i hope everything works out for you