My boss always says," This is why no one hires a single mom" All the time. Because I have doctor appointments, school appointments , etc all the time lol

that's terrible !
I hate your boss.
but from a superficial point of view, he's right of course, when there are 2 parents these tasks can be shared..but I don't think they're equally shared in many couples.
Maybe he just doesn't like Mom's in general working for him.

I don't know if he hired you, but if he did, he should stick to his decision (which was of course a GOOD one) and stop whining and hurting YOUR feelings in the process, and see the advantages of having a single Mom working for him...like

- efficient work
- ability for multi tasking
- reliability
- organised work
- ability to take responsibility
- feeling for organisation/logistics
- ability to find solutions for impossible and always new problems
- ability to overcome stress situations
- ability to ask for help when you feel the task is too hard for you alone
- ability to look ahead and be prepared for problems that could appear
- and surely many more

I do believe, that if one survives as a single parent, he must have at least a good number of these abilities.

Obviously he's got issues....I have had my own encounters w/ idiots like that.

When he says that to you, what do you do?

When I got things like that thrown at me, I looked for another job and got out as soon as possible. People like that seldom change.

Just know that you are better because you are a single mom, not worse. Look for a "family friendly" business environment that enables you to either have "flex time" or a laptop/PC card that you can work from home if/when situations arise that you can't be in the office. Then even on the weeks where nothing pops up, check your email on the weekend...answer a few even. Just don't get consumed or depend on it too much. Use it to your advantage as much as it is theirs w/o overdoing. Everyone will be happier and you'll have less pressure.

I agree with Dew. Sounds like he has an issue with moms in general. Many of the married moms I know tend to carry the load. Their husbands rarely take time off work to attend doctor appointments and what-not. It's the way of the world and your boss needs to accept it.

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Originally posted by miss jes:
Women have equal rights and although he's not hanging your job over your head because of it, he's not being fair either.

Maybe you'll need to assert yourself somehow so he'll stop crossing that line.

EDIT:
Sorry! I read this as you were a single MOM and not a DAD .. but come to think of it, his statement sounds even worse then because he's trying to demasculate you for being a single parent .. not liking that. What are you going to do?

Way to go Alaska. Got them all riled up for womens rights!
Not that I disagree with those..I am a woman after all.
But in your case...I guess you are a single mom as well as the single dad...so I do believe you qualify.

He isnt being serious. Its more of a joke than anything. He knows what I am going through and he actually is a kick arse boss. I know Ill never be fired, basically do what ever I want. But when I saw the single mom tpic I thought I would see if I qualified lol

I used to say that in interviews that I was a single mom then I was like, its really none of their business. I'm a mom. So what!? Just because I'm single doesn't mean anything.

Glad to hear that your boss was only joking though.

Yeah he is a good guy. He has 3 kids and his brother in law passed away on memorial day. Well he is adopting his 3 kids so the state doesnt take them. Poor guy. He is 32 and has 6 kids to look after now.

Oh my. That's so sad. I'm sorry to hear that. I wish him good luck on that adventure. I'm sure things will work out fine

Alaska....just so you know....around here we even wish the mothers Happy Father's Day and the fathers Happy Mother's Day.....that ought to answer your question.