It is grade card time again. My oldest son, 14 years old, has 2 Fs and a D-, which will probably turn into an F. He doesn't do the work. I am trying to work with his teachers, but comes home with "no homework". Ok-I should be able to handle this, I am a teacher. However, I am overwhelmed at his complete lack of effort and disrespect when I try to ask him about it.

His dad has taken the "he is only invited unless he has a special invitation because I don't want him to ruin my time with his brother and sister" approach. This means that he is all mine all of the time. I am not complaining about this, I love him and don't want him to put up with the emotional abuse he is given. However, I get these nice email reminders about his grades from his dad every once in a while...you know the ones that are saying,"You are not doing your job, I am watching you."

We are not yet divorced and I left over a year ago. He has been cheating for over 1 1/2 years as far as I can prove...probably more. I have all of my children in therapy. They don't want to ever spend the night with their dad. They don't call him, he doesn't call them.

He wants his family back now. He wants me back so much, but can't seem to say or do anything about not seeing his girlfriend. I know there is some kind of game he is playing, just can't figure this one out. I think it is the "better to stay than pay".

I am just extremely stressed about everything right now!!!!

Hi! this is so funny that we are in the same situation (sort of) I am 26 years old with two kids. A five year old and a six year old. I have been divorce for about two months now and my ex did the same thing except tha my kids miss him and he thinks im just telling him that so that we get back together.
He always wanted to get back together and one day he met an 18 year old and he completely forgot he had responsabilities.
He doesnt come to see the kids for months at a time and then one day he shows up and the kids are all excited again and thinking that he will stay. Then im stuck explaining to them why he's not here.
I am a single mom living in san diego California (really expensive) and he is out and about just about every weekend with his little kid.
He still wants to get back together but never really proves that he's not with her anymore.
I told myself that i can not keep putting this burden on me and the kids. I used to cry every single day and it was affecting my kids. I know ur kids are a lot older and it is a different situation, but the feelings that you and me have are the same.
At the end i started thinkin that he is the loser and he is the one missing out on the kids life and one day they will find out the thruth on their own. They will make their own assumptions and they will see that we were the ones supporting them every step of the way.
That's what keeps me going.
At the end of the end we are the winners and they are the losers