Hi my name is Heather and I am new to this site. My concern is I have 2 boys with different dads. In the case with my oldest, his 'donor' has never been involved at all. My youngest though, his father is involved and has in fact started taking him out for daddy/son time. This just happened for the first time this past weekend and when I came back in after walking them out my oldest asked where his little brother was going with Sean (the father) and why we weren't all going. All I said was Sen wanted to take his lil bro out for a bit, I left out the words 'his daddy' since I'm not sure how to handle this. My oldest is 5, soon to be 6 and my youngest is 11 months. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I am about to go through this same exact thing! My oldest daughter is 11 years old, her father is pretty much nonexistant, but I just went to court to have visitation set up for my 4 month old baby girl and her father. I sat my 11 year old down and tried to explain that the baby's father is going to come and get her for a few hours at a time for visitation. She asked what visitation was and I explained it. She hasn't asked why her dad doesn't do this yet, but I am waiting. I plan to just take it as it comes. Just spend extra time with my oldest while the youngest is with her dad, our together time has been pretty limited since the baby has been born so she may appreciate it. Hope this helps!