After her second attempt in detox, which only lasted 4 days, she came out and immediately did coke. She then spent 1 week in the hospital due to high enzymes in her liver. She got out of the hospital and disappeared for 2 days. She showed up at our apartment high on xanax and wanted to take the baby. I refused and called the police who made the determination that the baby should stay with me and she should leave. The next day I found out she had been seeing some other guy, which i was fine with because the marraige has been effectively over for a year. Unfortunately, I also found out she had our 10 month old daughter around this guy before. Needless to say, I was very upset.After a week she showed up looking like a warmed over cadaver, spent 10 minutes with Ava and promptly overdosed from cocaine. I scared to go through the courts because we had a domestic violence incident and I ended up getting arrested. Child Services got involved and thankfully it was sorted out and I wasn't charged, but I'm still apprehensive. My in-laws are on my side and I filled 2 domestic incident reports with the police when she showed high andwhen she OD'd in the house. Should I be worried? Any advice?

Welcome and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. The first thing I would do is file for divorce and get an order banning her from seeing your child. Anyone who is that messed up needs help and should not be in any way involved with your child. At least IMO.

Go see an attorney and get things started and file for FULL BLOWN custody asap. Sounds as though your wife really needs an intervention or something . . . hopefully she will get the help she needs.

Your job is to keep your child safe from any harm and if that means keeping your child safe from her mother, then so be it. You need to focus on your child and what's right for her and you.

Welcome to the forum. My daughter's mom was/is an addict.....she claims to be clean now but I know better, and that's her choice...meanwhile she RARELY even sees our daughter and I am raising her.
Do not be afraid of taking action. File for custody, get a protective order in the meantime. Be sure to ask for supervised visitation at a minimum.
Without a lot of details I will tell you that I have a criminal record, and got myself into a lot of trouble 15 years ago. I filed for custody and won a little over 7 years ago because of her mom's drug addiction, and trouble she got in to because of it. I got custody very easily and under the circumstances CPS was on my side highly recommending me to get custody knowing full well what my record is. Do not be afraid to file and do what you need to do to protect your daughter.

I agree with Don. Especially if you were never charged with a crime. Incidents can happen and people can be accused of things, but if there wasn't enough evidence to charge you with something, then it shouldn't be held against you.
I would get an attorney. If you can't afford one, contact legal aid in your area. You'll need help with this.

By the way, Welcome to SFV. Good Luck.

Thank you all for the advice

As I said in my Biography, I came to North Dakota to help take care of my grandmother in her last days. In the midst of that, I met my now EX- Girlfriend. We started dating in January, and broke up in February because I found out she has a drug problem. About a week after breaking up she called me and told me she wasn't feeling well, and she was feeling the same way she did when she was pregnant with her other two kids. So i went to the store and got a home pregnancy test, and sure enough she was pregnant. In the midst of all of this I had come to realize that I am homosexual.
Since then we have been getting along, and I go to her appointments with her, but I am afraid that she is doing drugs while she is pregnant with our child, and i am also afraid that she is going to continue doing them after the child is born, and she can't afford to take care of another child and I don't want mine around the drug activity. So i told her i would take the baby after it was born and we would set a visitation schedule, and that she didn't even have to pay child support, but she said that she doesn't want her child growing up in a homosexual environment.
So i am wondering what i should do, because i used to smoke pot, and got caught once when i was younger, but i haven't done it since. I am wondering what i should do to get custody of my child so that it doesn't grow up in a harmful environment like that? PLEASE HELP ME!

Welcome to the forum. Keep in mind that your best bet will be to get a consultation with an attorney in your area to ask these questions of. Things can vary from state to state and even more locally than that.
Seeing as you weren't married you pretty much have no rights until the baby is born and paternity is established. So I'm really not sure that you can take any action to help protect the fetus now from the drug abuse. Afterwards you can file for custody and let the courts decide what is the best thing for the child. You will need to prove her unfit. My suggestion is to begin keeping a journal now of everything that takes place, keeping it factual rather than how you feel about it all. A judge is much more likely to review the journal if it's simple facts rather than a lot of emotions. Has she been in documented trouble for the drugs? Will she by the time you are fighting for custody? Has/will her drug use cause problems with her maintaining all her regular checkups during pregnancy?
Also keep in mind that you may not get custody. Not necessarily because of your sexu@l orientation or your past record of smoking pot, just that it may not be possible to prove her unfit or less able to provide for the child. In which case you will be asking for visitation so still be prepared for her trying to fight that as well, again she would have to prove you a danger to the child to prevent that. I don't really think she'd have an easy time doing that just based on what you've stated. What I'm saying is be prepared for some sort of shared custody/visitation/child support.
Again, I would get a consultation with a local attorney to ask these questions of, and don't be afraid to get a second opinion either. Good luck. I really do hope that she straightens herself up for the welfare of the unborn child now and after birth.