Hello all, I am new to these forums and new to being a single father for that matter. I have only been a single father for going on 2 months now.

The Story:

My wife worked 3rd shift at a grocery store for the last 5yrs. She told me one night that she was doing this guy a favor and giveing him a ride to and from work while his car was broke down. She swore up and down that she would never do anything to jepordize our family even went as far as to send me sweet little emails while I was at work to ease my fears.

Well, about 3 days into this "good deed" I came home from work to find my wife and children gone along with some of their personal things. We had not fought or anything. It was like hitting a brick wall!!

She finally called me later that night to inform me that she was leaving me for the same guy she was doning this favor for. The only reason she ever gave me was that she just felt old, going to work, comeing home, the same ol same ol all the time.

I could not believe that she had the right to just take our children and put them in a home with another man just because she wanted too. I got a attorney the next day and by the following week I was given emergency custody of my 2 children. 2 weeks later I was awarded temporary primary custody of the children with her getting everyday after school for a few hours until I get off work and on weekdays that they dont have school until I get off work.

I did'nt want to keep the kids from their mother but I am not willing to give them up when I am perfectly capable of takeing care of them.

Well, that is the story thus far. I found this web site by the grace of god as I have been haveing emotional issues with dealing with the loss of their mother and the day to day struggles.

Thank you for your time.

DCW,

I, and most people here, can understand your frustration. Something very similar to this happened to me in fact. I know that it is hard, but it sounds like you are a stra=ong man who is doing right by his children. I applaud you for that and I hope that you will find comfort in these forums. The people here are an excelent sourc of support and information. Use it to your advantage.

Welcome to SFV.

-J

hello dcw..

i am so sorry to hear about your wife. what a shock and devastating blow.

it sounds like your kids are in good hands with you and welcome to the site..

btw, i'm a NC too

Welcome

Now that you have custody, watch out for false allegations against you. This is a way that your ex might try to get the kids back. I am currently fighting for my 3 youngest.

I hope all goes well for you, you can do it and it will get worse before it gets better.

Thank all of you for the warm welcome. As far as the false allegations go, I have already seen some of those in here counter claim. They were ridiculous and did not fly to well as it turns out. We are polite to each other at the moment for the kids sake.