I'm a single mother of a 18 months old boy. His father has recognised his son and he pays the child support. The father has only seen his son once, when taking the paternity DNA test. He says he doesn't want to have any contact with him. Until now I have not contacted him but I'm thinking of sending him photos of our son and to write him a letter where I tell him more about his first year.
What do you as a man and father think? Should I leave him alone or should I send him the photos and letter?
The father is 28, I'm 37 and we were together for 6 months and the child was not planned. He left us 2 weeks before I gave birth.
Hope you will help me in taking a decision.
Send you all lots of positive energy. We all need it

You can try it, but be prepared for him to continue to be uninterested in the child. Unfortunately, he hasn't developed a bond with the child as you have, and it would take a strong (character-wise) man to stand up and do the right thing. If he hasn't so far, he probably never will. I speak from experience. In my situation, my child's father didn't attempt to visit her for the first year of her life. I offered him the choice of signing away his parental rights, and he took it. I am sad that he has chosen to have nothing to do with her, but my child is surrounded by people who love her, and who don't see her as a "mistake" but an unexpected blessing. Do the right thing by encouraging him to make contact, but if he isn't interested, concentrate on the positive. Your child has one parent who loves him, and that's more than some have.

Honestly, I don't see what it could hurt. If it would benefit you in anyway by at least attempting to share the story of your pride and joy, do it. What is the worst that could happen? He already has nothing to do with your son, so you are not jeopardizing that. The only thing that I see can be gained from this is the piece of mind that it would give you by telling your sons father how wonderful of a son you have. More than likely, it will not change anything as far as the father is concerned, but if it would benefit you, by all means do it.