I am really embarassed about asking this. My exwife came over here last week. She ate supper with us and stayed until about 8pm. We still talk alot because where friends. she told me I was a lot better in bed than her current live in boyfriend. I was like wow. She said I was more affectionate. We went to the bedroom and laid on the bed begin holding hands and talking and then kissing and then all the way. It was great and we both did not feel bad about it. We thought it was just fun. We still don't regret it, yet she loves him. Whats going on? How should I feel. Has this every happened to anyone else?


sam

Let me just say, that even with a divorce, two familiar bed partners might still be able to get together and have good sex, but generally that's all it is. From what I've read of your posts I would caution you to protect your heart. And also caution you, that she's with him now and you being with her comes down to she is cheating on him with you when that sort of thing happens. You are putting yourself in "the other man" role. At least that's how I see it anyway.
Be careful.

And yes, I've been there though they nor I were with anyone when it happened and we both knew that's all it was at the time.

Just the fact that she could go behind her current boyfriends back and do that to him (even when she loves him) she can so it to you and you don't need more drama.

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Originally posted by Sam1977:
I am really embarassed about asking this. My exwife came over here last week. She ate supper with us and stayed until about 8pm. We still talk alot because where friends. she told me I was a lot better in bed than her current live in boyfriend. I was like wow. She said I was more affectionate. We went to the bedroom and laid on the bed begin holding hands and talking and then kissing and then all the way. It was great and we both did not feel bad about it. We thought it was just fun. We still don't regret it, yet she loves him. Whats going on? How should I feel. Has this every happened to anyone else?


sam

Perhaps you simply need some internal reflection.

What did you gain by reuniting with her?
What are the drawbacks in reuniting with her on a physical level?
What would have been the drawbacks in not reuniting with her?
If it was just "fun", what were you missing, or what did you miss when you made that choice?

Does she really love this guy if she slept with you?
What did you really learn through that experience?
What in your actions physically or verbally that led this on?
Why did you allow it to happen?
If she is not happy on a sexual level with her current partner, it won't last. It means their communication isn't all that open. So what is she really looking for?

I would say it was one night and that is it. She loves the other guy and just cheated on him. I would just leave it as it happened.

Probably wise.

let him enjoy his free ***...lol