I can't make up my mind if I want the father of my babys family to go to the baby shower. (I know it's a little early but still) I don't want to be mean and not invite them but part of me feels like they don't really care about me and my baby, they never call and see how I am doing and they never ask about me. Even when they are across the street they are to busy to stop in and check on me. I am not trying to be selfish or want attention, I just wish his family cared a little bit and if they do care then I just wish that they would show it. I feel since they don't really care that they shouldn't have the pleasure of coming to my baby shower. Am I being mean? Would love to hear everyone's opinion on this!
Thanks
25 weeks and counting!

I heard once that parties shouldn't be an excuse to exclude a person.

Mail them an invite, and if they show, that's great! If they don't, at least you were big enough to extend an invitation, and open the door to them.

Share your pleasure, and chips and dip, and if they want to be poopheads, let them be poopy. Then it proves that you are the bigger person. If they accept your invitation, it might be a chance for you all to turn over a new leaf.

Just don't forget to write thank-you cards.

And happy pushing, soon2be!

Leftover has a really good point and I am going to add to it. Is there a chance that they do care but think they would upset you by stopping in or calling? Maybe they feel the same way. Maybe they are scared to call you thinking you don't want them to and waiting for you to make a move and know that it is okay.
I don't know the situation but it maybe something to think about. Even before the shower extend some type of invite and they might surprise you.

I agree with both posts above. Extend the invite to the father's family. If they come they will see you are not angry at them and want them invovled in the baby's life. Hey if they don't come all the more food for you and the baby and other guests.

Good luck and have a great baby shower! :balloon:

SPIRIT

I do not nessarely agree or disagree with the people who have previously posted. but I did not invite the fathers family to my baby shower and the shower is in two days. I have made the effort. I have told them I would love for them to be a part of her life. They have made no effort. I felt like at this point if we sent them and invitation they would say i was doing to get something out of them, which they have already eluded to. But if i had thought they would have accepted and been happy to come I would have extended the invitation, but they have hurt me enough.

Are you with the father? I have a lot of concerns kind of like this. I don't even know if he wants to be a part of the baby's life yet and its driving me crazy not being able to know what the future holds. I would have to agree with sending them invitations and being the bigger person. If they dont show, its their loss

Please excuse my ignorance by being a man and for that matter English. But what is a 'baby shower' as I have never heard of one here.
Just curious


Regards,

Mark

Really? Have you ever heard of a "bridal shower"?

http://www.babyshowerideasonline.com/

Mark,
A baby shower is a little party that women have for the expecting mother. Most of the time they will bring gifts to help welcome the baby into the world.
A bridal shower is a going away party for the bride.

Now I understand.Iam more familiar with the Bridal Shower as it usually includes a 'Hen Night' for the ladies.Where they party away their last night of 'freedom'

Iam no longer ignorant on the subject,thanks.

A baby shower is kinda like hen's night, we call those bachlor/bachlorette parties. A baby shower usually serves a lunch, and the ladies play silly games for cheesy little gifts.

I went to one once where we played the game called "Guess the candy bar". The hostess put a candy bar in a diaper, stuck it in the microwave, mushed it all up, and showed everybody. We had to guess if it was a snickers bar, a Baby Ruth, Milky Way.

Then you win a paperweight.

LOL. Getting used to a soon to be familiar sight with a candy bar.At least it doesn't smell as bad as the real thing...
Over here I don't think we have such parties,but I could be wrong.The young girl next door has just had a baby and she and her Mom and also her b/f just bought everything they needed over the last few months and filled their Dining Room with all the stuff.I think some of her relatives bought little things to add to what she had already bought.