My little guy is due in one week and at my check up today my doctor informs me that i might need a c-section because he hasn't dropped at all and he may not be able to fit through my pelvis. he's going to try to induce with cervidil on monday to see if he can jump start my uterus. he didn't seem very optimistic about a vaginal birth. this was not the news i wanted. i've just been through a freakin' hurricane and today was the first time i've even talked to my DR. in 3 weeks and this is what he lays on me. this whole pregnancy has kept me on my toes. i think i deserve a break! i had this idea of pregnancy that keeps getting crumbled up like a little piece of paper. not to mention people keep telling me "how much easier and happier this experience would be if i had just found the right guy." DUH! A slap in the face would be easier to tolerate. i love how people think stating the obvious is so helpful. because it isn't.
i guess i'm just kind of bummed at the idea of a cesarean because that would mean i would miss way too much school to be able to get credit for the semester. i'll have to wait a whole year to go back (the nursing dept is really strict about everything) which means a whole extra year till i graduate and a whole extra year before i can start my life with my new baby and my BSN away from my parents. I started out thinking i could be like super woman and now i feel that vulnerable little girl peeking at me from around the corner. i am in major need of a shoulder.

Have they done a u/s recently to actually see the size of the baby? I think I'd request one. They can better gauge if he'll fit or not. I've not heard of a doctor saying that without having a u/s and thinking it is an extra large bundle to deliver.

What is the reason for wanting to start labor so soon, typically they will let you go up to two weeks after the due date with a singleton pregnancy. I don't know the history of the pregnancy so forgive me if there has been an issue that would make them want him out that you've already posted about.

As for the c-section, if you do have one, just get up right away, the next day get out of bed, get rid of that catheter. The longer you lay there the longer the recovery. You really can recover quickly (yet following dr's orders).

You're going to be ok. IF you can manage somebody driving you to school you can still go (obviously not in the first couple of weeks but nothing says you cannot leave the house for a class!) Think about those who have younger kids when the deliver a section baby... they still need to tend to them, get them to school, etc. It can work, it really can! Chin up, you are about to have the most wonderful experience of your life and it is so emotional and tiring.... don't let this get you down now. Hope for the best and remember what the beautiful little prize is at the end of this trip

I have to agree with Sue that it does not make a lot of sence unless there is something that we don't know.
Normally they do let you go 2 weeks over your due date and not dropping is not normally a problem unless the baby does not drop during labor.
Heck my last one I was getting in a hurry and wanted my water broke. She was head down and in place but the next morning when I went in she had turned and was breech. Two days later she turned again and I went into labor. They can drop and turn last minute if need be. I have heard of babies being breech or not dropping and doing it right before delivery.

Now like Sue I don't know your history and I am not a doctor but I would definately be asking some questions and let him know how you feel about a c-section. It almost sounds like he is trying to deliver at his conveniance and not the babies. Best way to find out is to ask.

As for the comments about you finding the right guy being more forward might help that also. Here's your sign type deal. When they make comments like this ask them to introduce you two when they meet him or something along those lines. In some polite way let them know that the comments are not welcome.

I wish you the best with your new arrival. Good luck and God bless.

I have had 2 csections and my doctor did know before the birth that I would not be able to have natural birth. It was found that my pelvis was too short to do natural. I did go 2 weeks over due with my first because I did want to try natural. After 27 hours of labor I did end up having a csection. I do agree you should get up and out of bed as soon as possible to get your stomach muscles going. I was in the hospital for 3 days and sure I was sore but I was mobile. As for the guy comments...what you are going through would be just as difficult with a man around and unless you can find a man to have the baby for you it isnt much help. Plenty of women do this alone and you have already been strong enough to do this by yourself so far so you need to give yourself some credit and have faith in yourself. You never know....on Monday it might all work out and you may just have your baby naturally....Hang in there and try not to stress yourself out cause you have got a big day coming up

i heard a rumor that my doctor is leaving the area to work in another practice. i'm thinking this might be a business move on his part. and i've been talking to him through the entire pregnancy about having as close to a natural, medication/intervention-free labor as possible and he always supported that and said he didn't foresee any issues that might keep me from that. after a sleepless night of trying to figure out what is best for my child, i don't think i can go through with an induction that may or may not work. if i can't deliver naturally because my pelvis is too narrow i can accept that, but only if i at least can say that i tried everything before having a c-section. i'm not a fan of major surgery if it isn't needed. this just doesn't seem right. i really do not like doctors right now. thanks for the feedback.

I'm really feeling like if it were me, I'd opt to wait it out, see at least if you go into labor naturally because your chances of delivering naturally will increase if you aren't inducing it. A baby dropping at this point, especially a first isn't very unusual at all!

I think that if you don't let your self have that chance to go into labor on your own you will be disappointed. Not worth it. Birth is often a once in a lifetime opportunity and I say sit back and allow nature the chance to take its course before pushing labor on. That is of course, unless there is a medical necessity to get that baby out of there.... but it doesn't sound like it.

I should also say I had 2 sections. Olivia was completely tangled and was not going to be coming out, legs arms neck everything.

Maia and Delia, it just got dangerous. I was induced and after a LOT of hours of laboring it just wasn't happening and it being a VBAC and twins my doctor was very concerned about unterine rupture.

(I had M&D at 1am ish and was up and out of bed by 8 that next morning..... no time to waste recovering -- but I didn't drive and did follow my dr's orders,not worth any tears for sure)

I just wanted to offer you a little more hope...

I was induced 3 weeks early due to serious complications. I hadn't dilated at all, she hadn't dropped, and she was facing sideways (head down, but looking toward the side). When they induced me, the nurse mentioned a possible C-section if everything didn't work itself out. But, 12 hours and 2 epidural shots later, she was out in one push. So hang in there, these things sometimes have a way of just working themselves out.