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Originally posted by PITA:
[qb] Well, here is how I see it. There is this stigma about getting pregnant that does not apply to the act that caused the pregnancy. Preganancy is a known effect of intimacy yet people are okay with the idea of people knowing they are being intimate but uneasy about what people will think if you get pregnant.

You are 37 years old. You got pregnant. People may have issues with the pregnancy but so what? You are a grown woman. You made choices that led to a pregnancy. You are the one that will be raising this child, not them. Learn early to not care what people think. your choices in life should not be led by the opinion of the majority or the minority. It should be led by your moral compass whatever that might be.

What does your guilt stem from anyway? Religion? The way you were raised? Social opinion of what situation a child shoud be born into? Financial status?

Pin point why you are feeing guilty and having trepidation at telling your parents and friends. Deal with whatever the source is now because it does not get any easier later.

You have made a great step at getting a support group in joining this board. You need all the support you can get for the road ahead. It is not a bad road but it is hard because it is different. Many of us have been doing the single parenting thing for years, 6 for me personally. It can work but you have to be ready to make decisions without worrying about the opinions of others. That is lesson one and the most important one to learn. [/qb]