Well I'll be DAMN. Here I am 16 years old with a 4 year old daughter. Me and her daddy are not together but we are best friends. And I think, well I know I am pregnant by him. We are both single parents to Erika. Well it started 8 weeks ago when we had sex. And I noticed I never got my period,my breast are tender,I get heartburn with everything I eat, and I have the most painful cramps. I kind of know I am pregnant. I know deep down inside that I can't have this baby beacause my parents put me out of their house the first time I was pregnant. They told me I was on my own the next time I got pregnant while I was still a minor. I told Eric that I might be pregnant and he was excited and he told me that he loves me and Erika and that he will stick by us. I am scared and don't want to have an abortion. I am scared to death. What will my parents think? Will they support me and my decision?And they just bought me a brand new car. I think I can support this baby with what it needs. I already have a crib, blankets,toys,extra binkys,changing table, carseat,stroller,and i also have girl baby clothes that are to small that Erika never wore. And again, I do have an job,I do get paid very very well, I go to school, I pay for daycare or well my parents pay for daycare for Erika. Do you think I have enough to support this baby? I love my baby girl and I do think she would want a little brother or sister. What the HELL! I Gonna Have Baby!!

WOW! I'm glad I'm not in your shoes. Abortion is a chicken move. It's not the new baby's fault--don't take it out on him/her. Yes, your life will be complicated, but nothing in life is easy except on TV. Be honest with your parents. I'm sure they love you dearly. It's not easy to be parents of a teenage mother. I'm sure they desperately want you to succeed and probably realize you're not mature enough to be raising children on their own making them the true "parents". Don't misunderstand what I'm trying to say. I'm not saying you're a bad parent or anything, but 16 year old is still a child in many ways. It would be next to impossible for you to raise these children on your own. You may feel like you are able to support them, but would the story be different if you had to pay rent, electric, water, phone, child care, etc.? It's very difficult to raise kids even with two parents and two incomes these days. I'm sure your life is difficult. I admire you and your parents for keeping the first one and taking care of her. With this next one, you may want to consider adoption if you can't raise him/her. But don't kill him/her. Those scars NEVER go away. As a matter of fact, they tend to destroy you as an adult. I know many people who aborted a baby when they were younger and can hardly live with themselves today. Be smart. Hang in there. Good luck. Oh yeah, and PS...stay away from boys!

Well, thank you for your advice. And because of you I have to keep this baby. My parents and my kids father are very supportive. I have a better paying job. I am able to pay for daycare,clothes,food,gas and etc. I have most of the things I will need for the expecting. But thank you for your advice.

Alisha,
Why not try birth control pills or the depo shot. I'm sure in your area they have a clinic that you could get the shot or pills for free or as low as $10 dollars. I feel for you but, enough is enough. Your parents only want what is best for you and your daughter. It is not easy trying to survive out here in the real world. I just want you to think about what you are doing to your life. It's great you have a job. I'm not trying to put you down or anything like that but, from the town I live in I have seen it happen with my own classmates in school who had children at 16 or younger who got married and divorced due to them being to young and not enjoying their life as a young teenager doing things that teens do like going to the movies, sports, prom, homecoming dances, riding around town over the weekend going to the malls shopping, ect. There are times I wish I could go back to being a teenager and appreciate being a teen although I didn't have children until I was 21 yrs old. I hope and pray that everthing works out for you and your daughter.Take care of your daughter, yourself and the baby on the way.
Maywest

Believe me, I have tried the depo shot but it
made me sick all the time and my Dr. took me off of that. The pill made me drowsy and my periods were irregular. I understand that my parents only did the things they did because they thought it was best for me. I know the real world is tough, but I've been in the real world since I was 14 years old. I've been taken care of myself and my baby since I was 14.Even though I'm 16 with a daughter
and expecting doesn't mean I can't have the normal life as a teenager.I mean on weekends I have time to spend with my
friends and spend quality time with my daughter. The only things I don't on weekends with my friends is stay out alnight drink and get high. Most of the time on weekends my daughter is with her daddy. That is when I have time to myself. Not to be rude or anything, but you may wish you could go back to being a kid or a teenager but I don't. I was the only child, my parents were over protective of me, they were always fighting, the only time they weren't fighting was when they weren't home. I
didn't have many friends foreal. My daughter was the best thing that happen to me. I wouldn't want to go back to my youger days. I've lived an unhappy life. And I think I have done a damn good job of raising myself and my daughter.

I live very near you sweetie. If you want some more friends you can have one in me...cuz i need more too. singem1*yahoo.***

Alisha,
Since the shot makes you sick and the pill makes you drowsey then try a IUD because at your age I don't think you could have your self permenantly fixed meaning get your tubes tied. I only meant about going back to my younger years because it was less responsibility and now that I am a adult I now appreciate my teen years but it is too late I'm just getting older each year.