The end is getting near and I am getting so excited to meet my little girl, however I am also really scared I will be a bad mommy. My car broke down in december, like a week after i found out I would be a single mom as a result i couldn't get to work and lost my job. I had some money saved, but it is gone now. I do not have to worry about food or shelter because my grandma provides that for us. But i feel like such a loser I haven't had a job for months now and before that i had had a since I was 16. I cant even provide for myself how can i provide for her. That makes me feel like i am going to be a horrible mom and that if I really loved her I would have found some way to help us. My mom says that all soon to be parents doubt their abilties. Is that true. How did you ladies and gentlemen feel as the big day approached?

You'll be ok. Especially if you are thinking about that stuff. Nuff said. You are a good mom already for swallowing your pride to get the help you need to eat well and have a place to sleep.

You will be fine. I had and will have the same worries when my first son was born and I have the same dobuts when this will be born in December. If you're thinking ahead than you are not all that bad. You do have a stable environment for your baby for when it comes.

Don't worry you'll do fine.

SPIRIT

Everyone does worry about that stuff. I had a stable job for almost 2 years when I had my son, and I worried about all of that. You will be a great mom and your baby will love you for doing your best. Give yourself time to get back on your feet and lean on your family while they try to give you the support you need to do what you need to do. You'll be okay.

I agree with all the PP's....give yourself some time ....you will figure it all out....there will be good days and days you are not sure how you will manage, but somehow we do.....You will be an awesome mommy though....something no amount of money can buy.....take some time to get yourself in a position where you can feel a little more independent....but remember that interdependence is a much better trait...let your family be there for you and know that the day will come when things will look better!
Big hugs and congrats on the upcoming birth of your precious child...

I also can agree. I'm just a week or two, if that away. I'm really scared and excited!! It's so many mixed emotions to deal with. I also thought am I going to be a good single mother. And deep in my heart I know I will. I also am 27 and moved back home with my parents. I wish I could have a lot of things different right now and better situated, but god does things for reasons. As long as your family is there to support you and you can always try for assistance. It helps. But, most of all the love between you and your child will take it all away. I cannot wait to have her because I know it is for a reason that I'am blessed with a baby girl! Regardless, of what we have. All we can do is be the best in our little persons eyes. Good luck!!

Hey ereyna when are you due? I am due July 28, so I guess it is basically a waiting game. I go between being so tired of being pregnant and being scared that she will be here soon. I know we will be alright, cause we have to be. I want to be better than just alright. Thanks everyone for your responses.

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Originally posted by want2bhappy:
[qb] The end is getting near and I am getting so excited to meet my little girl, however I am also really scared I will be a bad mommy. My car broke down in december, like a week after i found out I would be a single mom as a result i couldn't get to work and lost my job. I had some money saved, but it is gone now. I do not have to worry about food or shelter because my grandma provides that for us. But i feel like such a loser I haven't had a job for months now and before that i had had a since I was 16. I cant even provide for myself how can i provide for her. That makes me feel like i am going to be a horrible mom and that if I really loved her I would have found some way to help us. My mom says that all soon to be parents doubt their abilties. Is that true. How did you ladies and gentlemen feel as the big day approached? [/qb]

It's not the end, but a beautiful beginning. You are going to be a great mom because you want to be - that comes across pretty clear in your statements above. I didn't doubt my abilities; however, I admit I did ask questions like, "How will I know I'm doing the right thing for my child?" And you know what? I have succeeded in a big way and continue to be successful at being a great [single] mom.

And here's the best part... When your baby is actually here, you won't have ANY doubts whatsoever. When you look into those beautiful eyes and that beautiful innocent face - you are immediately transformed and equipped with everything you need to be the best mom you can be.

Enjoy!

You know what? I still ask the question of "Am I a good Mom? Are my kids going to be okay? Am I going to scar them forever? Am I doing the right thing? I asked it with every pregnancy and got nervous every one even though it did start to become old hat.
You will be fine and so will the baby. I have learned that the kids make it through and so will you. I pray a lot for my kids and that seems to help. Just be the best you can be and you will be better than you ever know.
God bless

My due date is July 17th. I'm really scared and excited. I'm also really sad lately due to my situation with my ex. I posted in pregnant and alone. I cannot wait for my baby girl because I know she will bring so much happiness into my life. When I feel down which has been alot lately I think and pray for us to get through this.
I have great family support, but they don't know my deep feelings right now. I feel really alone. I have everything set up and just waiting for baby. I'm going to do the best I can if it has to be alone.

Hey ladies as usual thanks for the support. Congrads ereyna you are you are so close, i guess I am pretty cose to the doctor streched my cervix yesterday. That sucked. I feel really alone right now too, but I guess thats about to be a thing of the past . I may even pray to be alone for just a little while in the weeks to come. Good luck ereyna and all you pregnant gals out there.

:grouphug:

I'm not in your situation, but it never hurts to get a hug .. or a group hug from people who care.

God Bless You - and may He help you be strong! I'm sure you are going to do great!

PS ... by the time I was ready to give birth ... I was more than glad to go thru whatever it was that would happen - because things were getting mighty crowded in there!!!!

I'm getting close, too. I'm due September 28th, but I'm sure she'll be sooner than that. I just have a feeling. (I'm having a girl, too!)

Anyway...

I totally understand the whole feeling that you're not doing enough. I've been feeling like that more and more as my due date gets closer. I'm on food stamps, have no job, and my mother is paying my rent and bills right now. I feel so pathetic sometimes, but I know that there is a reason for it all.

These are the times when we should take the help, love, and support we're offered/given. It's not easy, especially for us single folk, to go through this. Neither one of us is totally alone (for example: I have my Mom, you have your Grandma), and we, and others like us, need to remember that. I don't know if you believe in God, but he's always there for you. I pray every night, and , though sometimes it takes awhile to get a 'response', I feel better when I've done so.

I don't believe you'll be a bad mommy. As a few have said, many of the things you posted prove that you won't be. You want the best for your little girl, and that right there tells me how much you love her.

*hugs* Try not to worry so much, dear. Trust in those that love you and focus on what you can do now: get ready for your baby! Congrats to you, hon. Good luck! It'll be okay.

well guys i just moved back with mom and dad too, I feel ive lost all my independence and the baby isnt even here yet. i feel like ive gone totally backwards in life, I once was married had a house and all the toys, then went to an apt now this, and i wonder if ill ever be able to give my baby those things, but those are material things, i think we need to concentrate on giving them whats important, LOVE! :love:

Here Here *raises glass of apple juice*