I am almost 34 weeks pregnant. I left my X beginning of December, and moved to a different city (500 miles away), with our 15 month old son. I found a doctor down here, and have been going to those appointments. It's been so hard not having him there for the appointments. I seem to dread them all when the time comes.
As the end of the pregnancy nears, it seems to get harder. I thought I was beginning to except things. I haven't cried in 3 weeks. But tonight, as I am running a bath and just looking into the water, I have flashbacks of when I was pregnant with our oldest son. Flashbacks of him rushing into the bathroom before I got into it, with the thermomater - checking the water, making sure it wasn't too hot.
I broke down. It's those small things that remind you of the good times. Reminds you of the love and care they once had for you before it got bad.
These next 6 weeks, preparing for the new baby with out him, shopping, putting the crib together. - I have a feeling it's going to be a river of tears.

Hey Meggs, I am 31 weeks pregnant right now with my second child and I am separated from my husband too. I also have a 2.5 yr old son and know how you are feeling about remembering the good times of when they were with you during the pregnancy with the 1st. I am also sad and scared about doing everything alone for this baby. I do not know your situation of why you left your ex, but my husband left us and it makes this situation all the worse. If you want to chat or vent please PM me. Hang in there and good luck getting through this awful time. Being pregnant and alone is the worst but we will get through this and come out much stronger. When are you due? I am due March 10 with another boy.
Take care.

I started crying watching Grey's Anatomy last night because they replayed the eptopic pregnancy and how her boyfriend just cuddled up in bed and snuggled with her. I wish all the time the father of this baby would hug me and tell me how things would be OK. To at least drop me a line and let me know he remembers and doesn't hate me. I have a couple of friends who are pretty excited about this baby but it just doesn't compare to having the other half who created it around.

oh megs :grouphug: major hugs your way!

You are a very strong woman to be doing this on your own! I wish I had some great advice to offer, but all I can say is ... call your friends and family, stay as busy as you can (while pregnant) and go ahead and cry if you need to - it's much better to let it out, than to keep it bottled up inside.

I hope the sadness melts away, once your baby is born and you can move on with your life.

God Bless you.

I can SO relate to what you're going through!! I'm Jennifer, mom to Sarah(4) and Joshua(2) and am expecting another boy in the beginning of March. (32+ weeks pg.)

My husband and I separated back in October (when I was 18 wks) and he moved out in November. It has been VERY hard on me in every way, but especially emotionally. (I also struggle with depression). The holidays were lonely and sad, and TODAY is actually our 6 year anniversary. And as luck would have it, there were NO friends or family around today to hang out with me and help me forget...

I too, think all the time about how it was with my other two pregnancies and births, and when my kids were babies... It hurts so much to be doing everything alone, and to think of what's to come. He is still around a lot, visits the kids almost every day, and I'm thankful for that. I am glad they have him in their life so much. But I feel sad for me- that I have no one to be there for me like he used to. The split was the right thing to do, but the timing couldn't have been worse!

I have cried a LOT as well, especially this past week. I don't know if it is a hormone surge or what. I have to say that I am really glad I found this forum, b/c it really felt like I was the only one going through something like this. Not that I am glad that anyone else is going through this (!!), but you know what I mean...

Anyway, all I wanted to say is that I know how you feel, and I wish none of us were going through this! Maybe we can all help each other get through it...

Hugs to all,
Jen

FLsinglemom--I am 32 weeks pregnant also and separted from my husband since 27 weeks. I know what you are going through also. It is very sad, esp when you remember sharing your pregnancy with your husband with the other kids. I also have a 2.5 yr son and this has been the hardest thing of my life. And I also can relate to how hard it is to think of a future raising your kids alone, esp when dad was a figure in their lives (like my husband was too) My husband and I were also together 6 years--I feel your pain and sadness! I am now living with my mom and having my baby in another state so i have some support and help. Please PM me or write back if you ever want to chat or vent. I know how hard it is to be left pregnant and scared and alone. Its really nice to know there are other people out there going through the same thing though. When are you due? I am due March 10 with another boy. I had my first son at 32 weeks so I am hoping to make it further this time. I hope to hear from you soon.

Mamma77-

Wow, are very unfortunate twins separated at birth? LOL. I am due March 8, also with another boy!

I sure hope you make it further along in your pregnancy this time, too! My daughter came at 39 weeks and my son at 41! So I am not too worried about that. LOL.

Are you finding it harder this time, though, to get really excited or get into all the "baby stuff" that used to be fun? My mom and sister are throwing me a shower on Feb 4th, so I went to register at Target. And it just brought back memories of me and DH doing it together in the past... So it wasn't very fun.
I also am having a hard time naming him. I want DH's input, but he has hardly been willing to talk about the PG or baby at all. He says he never wanted a 3rd, and this one was a surprise, so he is having some major issues dealing with it. It makes me so sad, because I remember how he was before, especially with our first. He was so happy and proud- daddy's little girl! He was so awesome with her as a baby- like he was made to be a dad. And now...
I just feel so sad for this baby, b/c he doesn't deserve such a lackluster welcome into the world. I just hope my ex is able to resolve his feelings soon, and love this baby as much as he loves our other two.

Well, I've said enough for now. Thanks for sharing, and PM me anytime. If you have a way to chat, we can do that, too. I have AIM and MSN messenger.

Take care, sweetie.

Jen

FLSingleMom-. I would LOVE to chat. I can't believe how similar our situations are it gave me chills. My husband is saying ALL the same things like he never wanted this new baby and how its different than when I was pg with the first, and how he feels no bond to this baby yet etc etc. I had a baby shower scheduled for Jan 14th which was cancelled since this awful separation has happened. I just went shopping with my mom and sisters at Babies r us and Target and it brought back TONS of memories of when my ex and I did this together 3 yrs ago. It is not fun at all this time and I am so sad too that this baby is getting this type of entrance into the world. I am so glad someone understands out there!!!! THANK YOU!!!!
Oh and about the name--funny you should bring that up too. We had a name picked out before all of this happened but I never "loved" it. So I have since informed my ex that I am changing the name to what I want. I have a feeling I am going to be the main parent in this baby's life anyway so why please the ex now? And that is another really sad thing...how will they ever be able to bond with this new baby the way they bonded with their other children that they were around from pg to birth and then beyond???? It just seems so unfair that these little boys will be raised without a real daddy like their siblings had. Does that upset you too? Can't wait to hear from you.
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Hey girls! Sorry I haven't been on in a few days. Went back to my hometown to get the final baby things out of storage. 5 more weeks to go...yet I feel totally unprepared!

Past week has been hard. When I saw the X this past weekend, he hardly acknowledged the belly. He touched it once. I was hurt, I'm okay withi him still rubbing or giving the belly a kiss...because I want him to feel that love for the baby. I asked him about it, and he said that it was just hard. He doesn't know how to act anymore, what's okay to do, what's not okay to do, etc. It's just that this weekend may have been the final time that he is able to touch the belly. *sigh*

I was talking with a friend who is pregnant, and expecting in March. She was saying she doesn't want her husband in the delivery room, and that he doesn't want to be there, either. I was like, "WHY?" I told her that shring that moment with Jake was the greatest moment that we ever had. I told her that the look on his face when he saw his son being born, and saw his face for the first time...it was something I could never forget. Watching him bounce back and forth between the baby warmer and me, with a HUGE grin on his face, tears streaming down his cheecks. At that moment, I saw the fear, love, and joy of him being a father. I saw the man that I feel in love with. I just couldn't understand how she didn't want her husband there! But then recalling all these memories made me burst into tears, and the subject was dropped.

*sigh* I really hope he gets down here in time when I go to the labor. I want him there for the birth, and it just may be the ticket for him to realize what he needs to do to bring his family back together under one roof.

Hey Meggs-glad you are back. I totally can relate to wanting your ex in the delivery room. People keep telling me how crazy I am to want my husband there after he has left me like this but honestly he is the only person I want there still! I guess I have the crazy notion too that seeing this baby will somehow get him to realize what he has left. I am trying not to focus on that though seeing as though the chances are VERY slim. Oh and my husband doesn't ask how I am feeling or acknowledge the pg either. I saw him last week when I went to tie up loose ends in NC and it was basically the same thing. I kept asking him if he remembered that I am 8 months pg?! Such a painful sad time. I am sorry you are sad too. Please IM or PM me anytime. I hope for both of us that we have the labor/delivery the way we want it with the people we want there the most.
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Yeah - Jake is the only one I want there, too. I know I don't have to worry about my Mom being there if Jake is there. She refuses. Oh well, her choice. But I wouldn't want her there anyways if he was there. I don't want them going at each other's throats. I just want to share this with Jake, and that's it - no one else. I know that he feels the same way.

We've come up with the plan that he is going to to go stay at his Mom's starting a few weeks before I am due. His Mom only lives 2.5 hours away, so I know that he will make it in time if he does that. I just really hope his Mom doesn't end up coming with him. I can't stand the women! And she thinks I am the devil, and her son can do no wrong. LOL...some parents are so blind! I think I will talk with him about it. I think I'm going to tell him that is she wants to come, she can. But the first time she makes a smart remark, an out of line remark, or even if she looks at me the wrong way, she's on her way home.

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Originally posted by davefanatic:
[qb] I started crying watching Grey's Anatomy last night because they replayed the eptopic pregnancy and how her boyfriend just cuddled up in bed and snuggled with her. [/qb]

You are being cuddled right now.

Feel that kick?
Feel that squrm?
Pretty soon you will be cuddled all the time!
Someone telling you "I love you too!" all the time.

Congrates!