Hi all!!
Im new to this site and need some help..
3 weeks ago my fiancee of 2 years walked out on my cause we had a argument and he says he cant handle my insecurities and nagging. I will admit I have a problem with it, and am now seeking counseling, but I want him back so bad and dont know what I can do to get him back???? I have called him everyday and tried to tell him Im sorry and we can work it out, but he says he isnt going to stay since hes not happpy. He tells me he doesnt think I will change, but then he tells me we can sit and talk before the baby is born?? Its like he keeps saying things to get my hopes up. He says that Im not the same person he fell in love with 2 years ago. We had a wonderful relationship and my 4yo son even called him daddy and he hasnt spoken to him since he moved out to his parents. Do I continue to call and plea to him?? What can I do? I cant work cause Im on bedrest and when he moved out he left me with all the bills and no income cause everything is in my name cause his credit is so bad and he has taken his name off the account. All I can do is sit home and think and be miserable!!!! It hurts so bad. What can I do??? everyone tells me to not call him anymore and see if he calls me????? thats hard!!! the last time I called was yesterday am and its been hell since. I just want to talk to him. IS there hope??

Need advise..
Kristi

Well, there is always hope. I held on to it for a long time, 2 yrs. 5 months to be exact. Mine never came home, but I learned how to live without him. You have been a single mother before, so you have reason to think that he's not coming back which makes you horribly frightened. I wish for your sake he could understand that. Just try to love yourself and your children and go on about your business. He may want you more if you learn to want yourself. Be self sufficient. I don't mean to be rude, but what I'm hearing from you is that you don't think very highly of yourself. I'm glad that you're in counseling. I hope that it works out for you. It never did me a bit of good and it sure did cost a lot.
Best of luck to you in this terrible time.

I am going through this right now too. I am in my seventh mo of pregnancy, and mine says im not the same person, so we have been separated for a week. All he does now is party and drink and I sit crying and staring at the walls. I am sick of it but i cant seem to get over this... I am stuck out in the country right now with no car, i live at my moms house but she doesnt live here, she lives out of state. My only company is my 2 yr old son and this computer If anyone else is going through this, i would love to talk to them... thanks..

Meg

To both of you I went through the exact same things 2 years ago and all I can tell you is that no matter how hard it seems now you will get better and you absolutly need to move on and learn to be happy being alone. Any man that needs time or says he's not happy or even leaves in my opinion doesn't love you very much to begin with. They are just looking for a way out.

I was 7 months pregnuant when my husband told me that he wasn't happy, that I had changed, blah blah blah blah and he stayed. And he partied and drank too and nothing changed except I got even more miserable because now was he not only not loving me but he wasn't loving her either. Then when my daughter was 10 months old he just up and left. I would have been better off had he left the first time and you two will be too.

Be strong we are women and even if sometimes we think we need men we definatly don't need ones like these. Trust me!!!! Good luck.

Oh and don't forget that you CANNOT make someone love you!!!!!!!