First of all here is my history. I have a beautiful 5 year old daughter I was widowed from a WONDERFUL husband and father when she was only 8 months old. So, pretty much its been she and I this whole time.....and I have actually really enjoyed that. Well, a few months ago I began "dating" an out of town friend of mine and I ended up pregnant. We tried to make things work between us but, its obvious that its just not meant to be for us. At this point I don't believe he is going to be a part of this baby's life...he has just kind of ran off....I haven't heard from him in a while now and honestly, I am hoping not to. I have a very supportive family and my husbands family is very supportive of my daughter and I. I stayed in this town to be close to them for my daughter and they love us both...
Anyway, my question is this. When this new baby is born I would really like for her/him to have the same last name as my daughter and I. I kept my married name so my daughter and I would have the same last name. Is it wrong to give a baby that isn't my husbands his family's name? I don't want to offend my husbands family at all but, I really want the 3 of us to be a family...name and all. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much! Robyn

Hello, glad to meet you. To answer your question, No! it is not wrong to give your baby the same last name as your daughter. Now unless the father returns and fights for his rights and request the baby have his last name then there is not much you can do. Remember , it all has to go throught the courts after that. I hope this answered your question and good luck.

Not at all... because you're giving your child what is also your last name!

When you married your husband, you became a part of his family, and in doing so, so long as you remain close to them, and still carry their name, you're still a part of their family.

I agree with the others above. If that is legally YOUR name, then that should leagally be your new child's name. For all the same reasons you kept you married last name to have it the same as your daughters, this new child should have that name as well. Your husband passed away leaving you his daughter, his family & his name. You did not choose to separate so YOUR last name should not be in question. Your unborn child should obviously have YOUR name so...How does your husbands family feel...are they going to welcome this child?

BTW: WELCOME!!!