Hi everyone, this is my first visit here. I am in my 10th week of my first pregnancy. The father and I are no longer together, and I am finding it very difficult emotionally to do this on my own. Not being able to share my pregnancy with a partner is adding to all the other concerns I have for when the baby is born. I am finding it hard to get through each day without turning into an emotional wreck. I would love to be able to talk to someone. Has anyone else gone through a pregnancy alone? And does it get easier?

Hi nisse,
I went through most of my first preganancy alone and it is pretty scary. Your hormones are on high and that is not going to help the emotions. I think I would cry every day when I was pregnant, be it a song on the radio or a bird flew by. I now have 6 living children and that is a lot of tears. I am sure you will find a lot of support here. Do you have any family members or good friends you can talk to?
Keep on posting and talking with people here too and yes it will get easier. Try not to let the anticipation get the best of you.
Lots of prayers.

Hi Nisse, and welcome.
I can feel for you. I remember becoming pregnant, and my babies father going off to some resort with some other woman, while I sat there in tears. Or how he and I worked at the same place, and he would walk right by me, and not even acknowledge me!! That time was really tough. I wanted to share things that I was feeling with him, but he just wasnt there. (Read any of my other posts, and see where he and I are right now!!) I felt so alone. Like there was no-one there for my baby and me. I know the hormones didnt help any, but everyday was a cry fest. I dont know what the future holds for you or your babies father. I just know that the closer it came for me to deliver the stronger I got. Once you start to feel the baby, and see your belly growing, you realize you have a little innocent life within you, and that you are there to protect it. If you have any belief in a higher power, now is the time when that power is not leaving you alone. I dont know if any of what I am saying helps, I just know that the power of giving life is one of the strongest I've ever had. I am so proud of what I did. Just hang in there. You have a lot to get used to right now, and it is very hard emotionally. Be strong, you'll make it through. Especially when you've come here, and have all the support that this place offers. I wish it were around when I was feeling like you do.

Hi Nisse,

I am a new member and also pregnant with my first baby at 17 weeks and I am 29. Sometimes, I find the emotions overwhelming and they range from scared, alone, angry, to loving, concerned, elated and confident...all in the same day!

The father of my baby and I still live together (unmarried) as we purchased the home together assuming we would marry (after his divorce) and on my irrational idea that things would change and HE would change...HA! Now, we resent eachother, are unhappy and he is not supportive or even here most days/nights.

Like you, I am starving for affection, companionship and wanting to experience this blessed event with someone special... Like you, I am experiencing a myriad of emotions... However, now we are both responsible for these lives growing inside of us and it is now necessary to nurture and protect this gift.

I find a good cry helps as does caring for myself through pampering, reaching out to others and exercising. You have lots to look forward to in your pregnancy -- feeling the baby move, seeing their image, hearing the heartbeat and bringing this innocent life into the world, who you will hold and feel unconditional love for.

There are bad days...good days...great days and we will ride that roller coaster together!

This si what I went through the second time though I found that if I shared the pregnancy with a close friend that it really helped. I had her at all of my doctors appointments and she was also supposed to be there at delivery, although she was 15 min late, lol. I have been by myself with this baby for 5 weeks and it is difficult at times but my friends are there to help me when I need it and also I am on a few forums like this one and they really help. Good luck and God bless.

I did my pregnancy on my own and I found it did not consistently get better but I did have great days in amongst the bad day and some were just OK. Sane One I felt exactly the same in that the bigger my belly got the stronger I felt that I could do this and the more protective I felt for myself and my baby. It is tough but it is also amazing. I tried hard to share with friends and family and that helped a bit with the stress of not having the father involved. I was determined to do the best I could to enjoy each little change as I thought I was not going to let him ruin how I felt about the amazing wonder of having a baby. When you are feeling down share here and get some support, we do know what it feels like
Take care

Hi... I'm new, too.

I'm about 6 weeks or so pregnant, and I was never in a relationship with the father.

I don't know how much support I can be, Nisse, since this is all new to me, too. But I am going through it, too, so maybe that helps?

I know that I've been tired all the time and that I'm always hungry... I also know that I've been having the 'cry at the drop of a hat' problem, as some of you have mentioned.

I'm not sure what's going to happen with the father, but I do know that this child is meant to be. All we can do is our best for that little one in our bellies, and one step is to reach out. I think we're booth on the right track by coming here.

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Originally posted by nisse:
[qb] Hi everyone, this is my first visit here. I am in my 10th week of my first pregnancy. The father and I are no longer together, and I am finding it very difficult emotionally to do this on my own. Not being able to share my pregnancy with a partner is adding to all the other concerns I have for when the baby is born. I am finding it hard to get through each day without turning into an emotional wreck. I would love to be able to talk to someone. Has anyone else gone through a pregnancy alone? And does it get easier? [/qb]

I'm a virgin with this stuff too. You know chat room stuff. But I went through my first pregnancy without my son't father and now I'm 24 weeks pregnant with his second child again! He left again cause he can't handle me emotionally.It hurts and it will for awhile. Praying does help. And your mind will play tricks on you regarding him being gone and what is he doing ect...
I'm still trying to tell myself that I can choose to let his actions and lack there of to affect me and waste my time and energy. That's why I'm here on this site.

I'm not sure exactly how much help I will be, but I am nearly 19 weeks pregnant with my first pregancy and me and the baby's father (my husband) split up when I was about 10 weeks pregnant. Let me tell you something, it's rough. I cried so hard every day that I feared I would miscarry. The fact that you lay down at night, and no one is there to hold you, or rub your back, or just be there with you during these emotional days, is very difficult. But every time I start to get lonely and everything gets rough, I just place my hand on my ever growing belly and I remember one thing. I have someone who will always be there, and always love me, and that's the kid you and me are carrying inside of us. Maybe that will help!!! If not, I'm online nearly every day if you would ever like to talk. My email is total_ditzy_blonde@yahoo.com. Feel free to email me if you ever need an ear.

I can sympathize with you. I left my abusive husband when I was 4 months pregnant with my 3rd son. It's difficult and a bit scary I know. If you have any family to give you moral and most definetly emotional support then lean on them as much as possible. It will help. Just keep in mind how much love you have for that baby and enjoy all the little details and movements of having a baby growing within YOU!! Make it the best experience you can.

Thank you all for your words of support. I am now 5 months pregnant! It has gotten alot easier, although I still have hard days. Today was one of them, and that's what brought me here. I wrote in another post today that I was shy about writing because I the father did not leave me, I asked him to leave. I felt that I had brought this all on myself. But as things go on, I realize that it's better that he isn't here. When I originally asked him to leave, he was so angry at me. He even threatened to take the baby away after it was born. He said he would do anything and everything to be in his baby's life. But, over the last few months, he has shown his true colors. I rarely hear from him. He has said he would help with the medical bills, but still hasn't sent a dime. He seems less and less interested in the pregnancy, and in fact, started dating someone new in January... a month after I had broken it off.

Anyway, I am doing alot better now that I am showing and can feel my baby move. Thank you again for all your words of support.

Anytime. You mention you are now five months pregnant, exactly how far along are you? I'm 20 weeks so we are close together. I know feeling the baby kick ever day makes my day a lot better, especially on those emotional days. Stay strong.

I am in my 20th or 21st week. I'm getting an ultrasound next week, so hopefully they'll be able to be a little more accurate. And you're right, feeling the baby move makes everthing so much better.

Are you gonna find out the *** of your baby? And yes when you feel your baby move its the best feeling in the world. Soon you will experience your baby being able to tell you what sounds she prefers and know what times of the day she is most active.