Hi I am new to the site. I have a daughter who is 3 yrs old. I am going through a custody battle with my ex and it should be settled in August. Well I just found out about a month ago I was pregnant with my fiance's baby, I was very happy and so was he. We just went to our first doctors appointment last week. The other morning he calls me from out of state because he works out of state and tells me that he cannot do it the he is unhappy. Now here I am with a 3 yr old and a baby on the way. He does not want anything to do with the baby. I am thinking about an abortion. I know alot of people are against it but I think in my situation that it would be best. I am only 22yrs old and I cannot afford to have two children on my own. But the other side of me feels guilty, I am so stressed out right now and dont know where to turn.

I completely empathize with you. I feel your pain. I am so sorry to hear you are in this situation. It is awful. Follow your heart. Do what is best for you and the baby. If you do chose to have the abortion...do it soon..the sooner the better. Weigh out your options first.
I am 8 weeks pregnant...right before I got pregnant me and my boyfriend went through some major problems...We are still together but it is not a very secure relationship and I truthfully do not see it working out, because of him not me. I love him so much...he says he loves me but it is on his terms..not unconditional. I also have weighed out the options and am scared of being alone to raise another baby...I have a 7 year old boy with behavior problems, in a partial hospitalization program instead of a regular school..I have a lot on my plate and don't know if I could do it. Physically, financially, emotionally...But I want this baby...so of course that is what is outweighing it for me.
I wish you the best of luck....Please continue to ask for support here...the people are wonderful.

Jennie.

Thank you so much! I have decided what is best for both the baby, my daughter and I. I really appreciate the help. And I hope your situation gets better as well.

Thanks again,
Brandy

Hey Brandym, I'm so sorry you are going thru this. Thre is no excuse for someone who abandons their loved one and child except that he is a coward. You may not realize it now but you are better off w/o him. To try and give you a solution to your problem, you have some options such as abortion (I'm not a fan but it's only b/c I'm 34, I may have felt differently at yout age) you can put the child up for adoption as well, although I realize that may be a hard thing to do. You say you cannot afford to have 2 kids. Well, is there any way you can go to school part-time with the help of student loans. they can help pay for day-care. Some schools even offer daycare to students. Do you have family or friends that can help u out sometimes? What about becoming certified as a personal trainer/yoga instructor etc.. You can teach classes while you are pregnant. I'm just trying to put some ideas forward b/c you are young and that's a good thing. there are ways you can do this and it will take time but it can be done. Just remember to be strong (easier said than done) and take care of yourself and your little ones. My bf broke up w/ me 3 weeks ago and I am 7 mos so my emotions are crazy. I have no family here, but I have a good job and I am going back to school as well (part-time) Look to your friends for support as I have,. you'd be surprised how many will be willing to help. Good Luck and God bless. There is a reason that you are not with this a88hole anymore. Just keep believing in yourself.

I completely sympathize. I found out I was pregnant and scared to death of being a single mother again. My fiancee informed me that would never happen. he was so excited. The day after fathers day, out of no where says I need to get an abortion. Says I need to choose him or the baby. if I want him, abort the baby, if I want the baby, I lose him. After long thought it would probably be best financially, etc to abort the baby, but I could never live with myself if I made that decision, nor could I ever be with him and look at him again if I did that. I left. I've been gone 6 weeks. No word from him as to why he wanted an abortion or was I ok until last week. now hes telling me give him the baby and walk away. You are not alone. If you have chosen to keep the baby, you can do it and you will make it. Children are miracles and you will be rewarded