hello my name is lisa.. i never thought id be here but im glad i found this web site because now in my 9th week with the father out of the pic for 5 weeks , 3000 miles away on the other side of the country while im going through this alone and accepting that this is the way its going to be after all those broken promises and empty words i need to only depend on me for now ... he wanted the baby as much as i did but when the pregnancy test had two lines he freaked and vanished like casper only from time to time texting when i text him that im so stressed out and sad... the thing is hes close to 50 , very professional and i thought he had his life together although when i met him his marriage was in shambles.. we had something from the beginning but obvioulsly he did a road runner as soon as things didnt go his way....he doesnt call, return my calls or anything and tomorrow he wants to "talk" cause hes coming back to town since he works for aol and the headquarters are in va...whoopie do... not even interested in seeing his face after he trashed my place in a drunken stupor and left 8 nasty nasty messages on my machine cause i wasnt home too nasty to even talk about , about me and the baby and i just cant look at him in the eye... i know he wants me to get an abortion and ive never had one so that is out of the question.. i know hes gonna run but my lawyer will be in touch with him when the baby is born....so i used to think that young guys are immature and not reliable but after this one mike is his name i really changed my mind....he is so full of himself and thinks about nothing but himself.. i think he still is married and has been lying all along about everything but ladies when things get tough you know go grab that song I WILL SURVIVE, blast it and get the losers that broke your heart out of your hair and you will not only survive this but you will find someone one day that will adore you and your children and this will be just a bad dream.. good luck to all of you and ill be thinking of you ... xoxoxo LISA FROM VA

Lisa, he doesn't sound like too stable or safe of a guy. If he does come to town please be careful. I agree, you will survive and you will fall so deeply in love with that child nothing else will matter! WELCOME!

Welcome to the site. Glad you found us here. I just had my daughter eight wks ago and went thru a rotten time and was simliar to yours in some ways. Like you I thought and older guy who seem to have his act together would stay around. My X is 33yrs old and he flip. Told me to get an abortion th whole nine yards.

Like you said you will make it thru. I did thru the whle pregnancy and birth. She is so sweet and I love her to death. Everyday I look at her and know I made the right decsion to keep her. I also made the right descion w/my son. I did it alone w/two pregancy and will more than likely raise both my kids on my own. There are so many of us that have gone thru it....if you need support please come here b/c you will find it. Glad to hear you are being so strong.

SPIRIT

hi thank you for your support... yeah i really did love him and i thought he loved me.. he will be 50 in aug so i thought after 3 kids of his own and 2 step kids he would be more descent than hes been...no such luck.. he wants to see me tomorrow but im sure to push getting rid of the baby....i dont want to see him but i do need to talk to him face to face and tell him how i really feel...

thank you .. thats for sure...ive been a nervous wreck for the last 5 weeks but i know ill get through it.. thank you for your support.. take care and see you on board.. : ) LISA

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[qb] ...but ladies when things get tough you know go grab that song I WILL SURVIVE, blast it and get the losers that broke your heart out of your hair...[/qb]

The song "Gone" by Kelly Clarkson is a good one too. I've played it so much this past week that I think the CD might be stuck in my CD player.

I'm new here as well...my baby's dad is 3000 across the country and unstable too. Who knew we had so much in common??? *j/k* <--- Hey if I don't laugh about it...I'll cry.

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