my soon to be ex husband is in the army. I found out about 2 months ago that he had an affair while I was 5 months pregnant. Now I am 7 1/2 months pregnant, our son is due in a little over 2 months, and my husband is still running around living the single life, doing whatever he wants and giving me little to no support. I left our home when I found out about his infidelity and moved back to my home town. Origionally it was just for a "break" but he's been giving me nothing but lies and hurt since I've been home. I'm constantly having to go behind his back and check things out, and he's always lieing about something! I can't take it. I am so fed up with the way he's treating me and his son! I really need some guidance.

Hi laura mae, I wanted to welcome you to the forum. Great group of people here so if you are looking for some particular advice just let us know.

Hi Laura...Welcome to the family......
You're not alone here so don't be afraid to jump in and ask for support...or give some out....
I'm sorry that you're going through what you are but it sounds like you've made some good decisions already...
Focus on you and your baby now......

Look forward to having you around

I am sorry that this happened to you... but one thing I have learned is that all things happen for a reason, even if we don't understand it at the time.

You should apply for food stamps, WIC, section 8 housing, etc etc everything you might qualify for -- your county office of family support should be able to provide you with free resources and try to get you child support as well for when your son arrives.

Congratulations on your first baby!

-Amanda

Welcome! and congrats!

I know the army cracks down on dads/moms about their families and taking care of them. Definitely check into this. Make sure you are getting for your son what he needs.

Dont let anyone tell you what you need to do. You do what you think is right. If your ex is giving you grief, try talking first then take action if it doesn't get better. Or just leave it alone completely and only engage with the ex when it concerns your son. If he's treating your son negatively, then I would seriously put some stop to that and do what you can to protect him.

Do you have family you can rely on for a while? try family and friends first. As a military wife, I would think you would have some close knit friends that might help you. otherwise, do whatever you have to in order to keep you and your son healthy, housed and in good condition