hey everyone!! well im 10 weeks preg and the baby daddy is in jail..(i put him there) im not sure if i made a mistake or not. im so confussed. please help me

Welcome Aug22. Unless you made up the charges and lied to the jusge/law officers YOU did not put him there. He put himself there. If he hurt you physically, HE put himself there. If he put you and the baby in danger, HE put himself there. If he did something that was against the law and hurt someone else, HE put himself there.

Of course you are confused, you are pregnant which sometimes can impede clear thinking with all the hormones. But even if you were not pregnant, being linked with someone who is unlawful can be very confusing. Especially if you love him. Take it from me. I know.

Hey Beth, I did just read you other post in Domestic Violence. You certainly did not put him there, he did that to himself. No mistake about it.

Hi Beth,

You absolutely made the right decision. And like PITA said, you didn't put him there, he did. You are in charge of protecting that little baby in your belly now, and getting away from him is part of that.

Keep posting on the boards, there are lots of people here to listen and give support.

I'm 5 months now, but have been witout the father since the 7th week. If you ever want to talk about things, let me know.

Hey Beth,

My sister's boyfriend sold drugs and choked her and slammed her against a car when she was a few months pregnant. He was also treating her poorly. Well, he got caught and put in jail and remains in jail. She says she is still in love with him and misses him a lot and wishes he wasn't in jail. However, I always ask her if she wants her son raised in an unhealthy enviornment and to grow up disrespecting women.

You did not put him in jail, his actions put him in jail. This may be what he needs to get his act together and then again he may not learn this time. However, always keep yourself protected because you are no longer responsible for just yourself. Everything you do for the rest of your life will affect your child.