Hello, my name is Rachel, I'm 20 years old, and I am entering my 32nd week of pregnancy. This is my first child, ITS A GIRL! My story is similar to most of the others that have posted. My fiance left me 14 weeks ago, the day we found out we were having a girl. He has one previous daughter of which he already pays child support, and I don't believe he left me b/c of the *** of our child, but more because he doesn't want to step up to the plate once again. He is repeating his own history, but for two years I thought he was such a better person. I am so alone, and have been since he left. Of course he is out living carefree for now, but I also believe that he is just "temporarily" relieved.
My main concern right now is my daughter and myself of course. I'm really in search for some answers regarding paternal visitation rights during the tender years that are normally ordered by a judge when a child support arrangement has been made. Does anyone know what the chances are that a court would give him visitation overnight or unsupervised. I too am concerned for my child's safety and well being now that I have been abandoned by him. I need to get to a legal professional for a consultation, but I found this first. I want to weigh the factors... I won't even apply for child support if I'm not satisfied with the visitation. Not that I'm selfish, but I've seen first hand how he ignores his daughter now, and leaves her with anybody willing to watch her. I don't want my child to be tossed around as such. Thank you very much.

i wish i could help you but i cant. I do feel you pain it hurts to be left alone. i am having my first child and alone maybe the other mother can help you. or just call a case worker see what they can have you do for now so you have a strong case aganst him.

Well.. The other mother may be looking out for his best interest at this point. He is with another woman, and I'm not too sure he isn't back with her. So, I'm at a mute point with her right now. I pursued her in the beginning b/c she didnt even know that I was pregnant and talked to her for a little while, but then things started seeming less comfortable and she became rather rude about even letting me maintain a relationship with her daughter that I became VERY attached to.

I work in a women's shelter and often have clients with complicated custody issues. These things vary from court to court however. The advise I can give is to simply make all of your concerns very well known to the judge. I will think good thoughts for you.

Thank you jerseygirl, I can only hope that I make the right decisions for me and my child's future together! Thanks again!